I guess that goes for our two male readers….
But if you believe in equality between the sexes, you may call yourself a feminist.
If you believe that society is structured in a way that favors white men, and you want that to change, then you may call yourself a feminist.
Of course, just thinking these things isn’t enough, we also expect you to *act* like a feminist. (You have to walk the walk, not just talk the talk.) Do at least half the chores if you’re partnered, listen to women at meetings and say things like, “Yes, that was the point Mary was just making” when a woman is talked over, question when women are automatically passed over in hiring “let’s look at this cv again,” and so on. Be on the look out for systems that encourage disparities and work to change them. There are many things you can do and may ways you can prove your feminist bonafides; be open to learning about what they are.
But if some crazy nutjob on the internet tells you that because you have a Y chromosome, you’re not allowed to be a card-carrying feminist… well, that’s just that crazy nutjob’s opinion. The nutjob may say (s)he speaks for all women, but (s)he doesn’t. She will also attack any woman who disagrees with her by telling her that she has too much privilege to speak on the subject, despite having breasts and no Y chromosome. Just smile and disengage, but keep doing your good work and strive to do better.
Those of us who aren’t nutjobs appreciate it. There’s a long way to go, and we need your help too.
p.s. We would tag this post “debatable” except… it really isn’t. We’re providing a definition for our blog. Definitions, are, by definition, not debatable.