Just read this on a mommy blog: “Dh said that he leaves me to do all those things because I’m better at it than he is.”
I’ve seen the sentiment before. Heck, my in-laws recently revoked laundry privileges from both my BIL and my FIL… something about a shrunken sweater.
That doesn’t fly in our household. If you suck at something that is a basic ability, if that’s your excuse, well, then you need more practice.
My partner wore a lot of pink underpants and socks when he started doing laundry. That’s not an excuse to stop doing laundry, just a reason to not buy red clothing to begin with. (Or really any clothing that’s not color-safe. Who has time to separate laundry these days? Not us!)
My husband didn’t know how to cook when we got married. He made some memorably spectacular mistakes (pretzel bread, fish cookies, etc.), and now he’s a better cook than I am. That means I need more practice! We even sent him to cooking school to speed up his knife skills and it worked.
If you’re bad at something, that’s not an excuse not to do it. That’s a reason that you need to do more of it.
Now, if you don’t like doing something, then perhaps you should consider outsourcing, because your partner may not like doing it either, or even if your partner likes doing it, you may dislike far too many household chores to be able to split them evenly.
Of course, something like baby-care becomes more enjoyable when the baby has bonded with you both, and that takes an upfront start-up cost of time spent taking care of the baby.
What do you think? Do you or does someone you know use the “but I suck at it excuse” to shift work onto other people?