One week of spending with #1

Inspired by Yuppie Millenial’s post.  [link updated to refinery 29]

Grocery shopping: $176.56
Cream sodas and donuts for the kids (we went because I wanted a donut, but when I got there they were out of the kind I like so I didn’t get anything): $10.50
DH ordered a replacement door handle for my car since he broke one at the donut shop: $12.97
By dinner time I was really starting to feel under the weather, so DH picked up ramen from the new from-scratch ramen place in town (they make their own noodles! no msg! so good): $39.80

DH decided to try a new Mexican place with the kids. It was meh. (I stayed home and slept.): $34.06

DC1’s after school care for the next month (paid early via credit card): $115
DH ordered replacement earphones for himself out of his allowance: $31.88

DH put gas in the car: $15.55
DH also bought a ton of stuff for work that he’s getting reimbursed for, so I’m not going to count it. Our garage is gradually turning into a workshop. But that’s a trade-off for telecommuting.

DH decided to get burgers for lunch and brought one to my office: $20.30
Replacement booster seat for the carseat that was in the accident (DC2 is big enough for this particular booster and refused the super expensive convertible one that I wanted to buy because zie didn’t like the cowmooflage, thus forcing me to look at other brands and saving us ~200): $53.01

No spending

Paid violin teacher online (usually this is $80, but she’s taking a week off): $60

So is this a typical week?  Hard to say.  Usually we eat out as a family 2x/week and DH goes out for coffee or for lunch in order to get out of the house during the week.  Usually he doesn’t bring me any and pays for it out of his allowance.  Most weeks we spend ~$200 for groceries, but some weeks we spend more because we go into the city or we skip entirely because we’re too busy or need to eat the pantry down some.  Also this misses most of our major first of the month expenses like daycare, mortgage, and so on, though I guess I did pay for after school and violin a bit early.

Does anything surprise me?  I guess how many small purchases got made?  DH tends to buy things right away when he thinks we need them, but I tend to buy things in lumps.  His frequent buying of small things is definitely a function of having amazon prime.

But an interesting snapshot.

Have you ever tracked your spending?  Why or why not?  How in detail did you go?  Did you learn anything?

link love

Wandsci’s commentary is so true.

Debate analysis in terms of her strategy (actually interesting).  Don’t let yourself think that anyone would have won against Trump or that Hillary would have lost against anybody else.  She did what none of the Republicans could do and made it look easy.


More voter suppression

Compare Trump and Clinton campaign followers by the words in their profiles.  The results will probably not surprise you.

What did trump know and when did he know it (7 days of scandal ago…)

It’s not economics

Triggering, but ICYMI, here’s Trump trying to force an unwanted kiss on a young girl

Black panthers fed kids

This is horrific and has a lot of triggers (how Trump supporters have harassed a journalist’s family)

sigh again


Latest Clinton emails continue boring.

CNN’s trump surrogate problem

More Donald and John comics

So creepy.

Donald Trump book report.

Not sure how I feel about this.

Cards for humanity against Trump

Fun twitter feed

Have there been too many profiles of Huma Abedin?

Hillary contains multitudes.

The ignored, silent majority

Minimum payments and debt paydown in consumer credit cards

Orangutan safe Halloween candy.

Hamsters recreate the great british bakeoff

pet outhouses

Dame Eleanor discusses her revision strategy.

Full research mode

Interesting how different things work for different people in terms of productivity.




Ask the grumpies: Self-care during a bigoted election season

Anu asks:

What are your suggestions for self-care during this crazy election, particularly when there is rampant misogyny and racism in the air?

#1 and #2 have had two very different approaches to this.

#1 recommends ostriching.

#2 has been spending way too much time following things.  She strongly recommends reading docrocktex26.

She’s also been donating money, subversively wearing pro-Hillary shirts on weekends, and cheering on her sister’s volunteer efforts (and feeling slightly guilty for not volunteering herself).

Looks like the washington post reports that the APA also has those two suggestions— either limit your media reading or go do something about what’s bothering you.

[It should be noted that #1 seems to be in perfectly good health this election season and #2 keeps getting sick (currently with an upper respiratory infection).  So maybe ostriching is healthier.  Or maybe students are just foul vectors of disease during midterms.]

Also I like the Hillary Shimmy song and I watch a lot of Seth Meyers.  I watch other comics too but turn them off when they get sexist.  (Seth Meyers has been really good about that this election season… so, oddly, has been Bill Maher.  Colbert a bit of a disappointment in that respect, and Trevor Noah varies– sometimes he’s spot on with regards to misogyny and sometimes he completely misses.  And of course Samantha Bee.)

And, like HRC herself, we are big fans of cat videos.

There’s not that much time left until November 8th. So hang in there!

How about you, grumpy nation, what self-care tips do you have for this election season?

Downstream voting is more important than ever before


Because John McCain says that they’re not going to allow Clinton to appoint a supreme court justice.  All that garbage about not appointing Merrick Garland so as to let the next president decide, they are now admitting, was garbage.

The Republicans are currently left being supported by a party that is 100% bigot and heavily uneducated.  Normal people have fled.  That means that politicians with an R next to their names have to decide whether to cater to the R base, to try to capture independents despite the presidential ticket, or, possibly, in the future to switch party affiliation.

It seems like they’re trying to cater to the R base.  In doing so, they are literally threatening our democracy.

The easiest solution to this problem is to VOTE THEM OUT.  Supreme court confirmations need 60 votes.  The more senators that are Democrats, the more likely we won’t have to explain to our children exactly why separation of powers isn’t currently working like it’s taught in school.

Here’s fivethirtyeight senate forecasts.  Do any of the swing states look worth sending money to or volunteering for?

Other state and local races are also important.  Every census, congressional districts are redrawn and there will be less Republican gerrymandering if there’s more Democrats (and other) in the offices that make these decisions.

What are you doing for the election?  Are you energized?  What are the best ways to volunteer?  Where are the best places to donate money?

Humblebrag: My monthly retirement savings is equal to my monthly take-home

That’s right, folks, with my retirement accounts maxed out, I am saving 50% of my net income (after taxes, health insurance, parking etc.)

Of course, this would be a lot more impressive if we weren’t spending the bulk of DH’s monthly income… sure, we’re maxing out his retirement too but he’s only got the one account and it doesn’t have the best match in the world.  There was  time when we were saving a much larger percent of our joint income, but now we make more and spend a lot more.

Also mind-blowing:  If I made more money, then I would be taking home more than I could save for retirement.  Because retirement is maxed out.  (I wonder if this means I should turn it all to Roth instead of Traditional so I can get those last drippings of retirement savings even if it means my taxes this year go up… a difficult decision problem.)

But still, when I got my first paycheck stub for the year (I *heart* getting paid!) I thought that was a pretty neat thing– once you include the employer match, I’m putting away almost exactly what is going into my savings account.

I love money so much.  It provides so much security.  So much opportunity and possibility.  You can spend it too, but my favorite thing about it is that I no longer have to worry so much about most things.  If DH loses his job or I get sick of mine, we’ll be fine, at least for a while.  We can’t retire and continue to live the life to which we’ve become accustomed, but we could take a chance that required us to stop saving for retirement for a while.  We still can’t buy a house in Paradise, but we could rent one, at least for a while.

This message brought to you by the first paycheck of the school year (and the first full paycheck in over a year!).  Being paid is so much more awesome than not being paid!

Do you like getting paid?  Do you have any humble-brags about money you’d like to share?

Yet another late link love

First up– we’re out of ask the grumpies questions– please email us (grumpyrumblings at gmail) or respond to the previous post any questions you have for the grumpy nation, random or otherwise!

Second– We’re going to be late and/or scattered for a bit.  I’m not sure what our excuses are, but I assume they have something to do with #1’s reintegration to the world of teaching and service.



This is really well-reasoned on issues that matter to conservatives (as opposed to say, bigots).  Probably the most informative endorsement I’ve seen thus far.

Women have to apologize for more things and it sucks.

We shouldn’t forget the danger trump is to minorities, not just to women.

I wish I were a fraction as awesome as HRC.

Liberty university students denounce Falwell for his unchristian support of Trump

Scalzi’s Clinton endorsement

This is a seriously big endorsement for foreign policy people.

Teen Vogue again has investigative reporting.

Cosmo on HRC

Lou Dobbs should be fired

Trump’s assault of a People writer

This thread on trump

Fahrenthold is awesome



I assume the moral is you don’t force people to play with you, but I hate the way PBS kids is so patriarchal with their original programming. Only their imports seem to be reasonable.

Scalzi on the GOP.  They built this.

TDS on pussygate

Who is the antichrist?

HRC may be setting herself up as the next LBJ with a new war on poverty

Chris Kluwe continues to be awesome

More on Trump’s Russian ties

vox on debate 2 which seems so long ago

If you feel catty

The second to last sentence is my favorite

It is rare that fox news makes me LOL

BTW, DH bought the “Only Logical Choice” shirt.  It’s really high quality.  Would recommend.  The packaging was from the DFTBA store, and we’ve been really happy with their stuff.  (Not a sponsored link!  But if you think the official Hillary swag is kind of lame, this is much cooler.)

Vice presidents + octopodes FTW

surprisingly cute

Rolling a 1

so do we

don’t want other bloggers’ financial goals

An unsponsored review of Blue Apron

Soliciting more ask the grumpies

Ask the grumpies is a feature we run every Friday or every other Friday depending (sometimes it alternates with the less-popular but still fascinating google questions).  You ask, we answer, or we punt and ask the grumpy nation to answer.  In any case, you get the benefit of not only our wisdom but the collective wisdom of the far wiser grumpy nation.

What questions do you have for us?  What can we bring clarity or further confusion to?  What can the grumpy nation ponder and discuss on your behalf?  Ask in the comments below or email us at grumpyrumblings at gmail dot com.