#1: we still need to do a bunch of stuff before the party tomorrow… like get plates and cups and forks and make cupcakes… and candles
DH is like… can’t we just reuse the ones from hir real birthday? (They came in a pack of 4)
Oh lord, we’re going to get so many gifts… argle. DC doesn’t need any more toys. I understand why parents love the books
#2: keep a running list of who gives what and regift to anyone except that kid!
#1 : yes
so much effort though. If only Toys for Tots was sooner! There’s always the Goodwill closet.
#2: YES. And who knows, maybe someone will move to your neighborhood or department with kids that need toys.
#1: there are a lot of kids, but I don’t think anybody needs toys. I think we all have too many (in terms of the neighborhood and department) (not in general)
#2: maybe you can make a blog post calling for an end to the madness in children’s gift giving.
Next year: Convince DC (s)he wants a book-themed party. Then probably (s)he’ll get a lot of books.
#1: we have all the books ever written
#2: if teen relatives get pregnant, send them the extra kids’ books.
#1: we’re good at regifting books
but you can’t do “no gifts” because most people bring gifts anyway, and then the few people who don’t bring gifts feel like crap (speaking from experience as a rules follower) (we did bring a food item)
and you can have a book exchange or something but that’s pressure on the parents to buy a specific thing that may not be easy for them to obtain on short notice
#2: try some sort of wording like “DC is really into art supplies so please bring a related gift and help hir use them all at the party!” Then they take the art projects HOME with them afterward.
#1: yeah, the problem with that kind of thing (miss manners doesn’t approve) is that folks can’t use their own regift closets, they have to go to a store etc.
We decided no restrictions was the most polite thing.
#2: “DC is really into helping in the kitchen. For your gift, please bring your favorite recipe for hir to make later and a story about why you love it.”
#1: that doesn’t work because they bring a recipe AND something (AND it’s a lot of work for the parents). Except the people who just bring recipes– they then feel like crap.
#2: I suck at this game. People suck.
#1: I sucked too. You have to experience these alternatives to understand why they don’t work first hand.
#2: sigh. sometimes I hate this culture.
#1: yes. I don’t think IBTP for this one though. I blame mass consumerism or something. And it isn’t like we don’t like gifts. We love gifts. But there’s just so much stuff, it’s overwhelming. If the in-laws weren’t so generous this wouldn’t be so much of a problem. This is such an upper middle class problem to have. I hope that DC is super generous and gives unopened things away when (s)he’s older to people who don’t have so much stuff.
#1: UPDATE: The Toys are AWESOME. (S)He is going to get to keep them all because I want to play with them!
Gentle readers: Do your children get inundated with presents? Have you figured out a polite non-intrusive way to stop the madness without hurting anyone’s feelings? Or do you just give in and play with the cool stuff yourself?