We’re from the midwest. When a person has a tragedy or a celebration, we send food. Folks have family deaths (including miscarriage) and emergency surgeries and babies and foster kids and adoptions. We send casseroles and cookies.
Here’s our standard package for a new mom (generally sent 2 weeks after the birth, after the first round of grandparents has headed out, but before the baby is going to show signs of food intolerance to breast milk)
- Beef Tamale Pie casserole (or the vegetarian version if vegetarian)
- Some sort of meat (or veggie) stew
- A rotisserie chicken
- Oatmeal Raisin Cookies (very important for milk supply)
For losses, we send casseroles and chocolate, cold comfort, but the best we can do. For recovering from surgery, healthy food, usually with low salt content.
#2 says, I bring things that are already in freezer containers so they can spread out their food needs. Protein & veggies, soup is good, though I am less beef-heavy than #1. (#1 says: beef is for new moms– they need the iron!) If they need consolation, they may need ice cream. I think people might also need simple comfort food for when their brains are worn down, either by grief or by joy and sleeplessness. If I know them, I probably know a few things they would like, such as the kind of soda they drink or the special diet they’re on or what foods they gravitate towards.
What do you do when someone has had a tragedy or celebration? If you send food, what are your standards?