Gifted-as-children stay-at-home-mothers discuss their brains atrophying and their careers dying while they nurture their gifted daughters through homeschooling.
Another reason I am not and could never be a SAHP. (Though I’m fairly sure I could handle independently wealthy… I’m willing to experiment on that if anyone wants to fund me!)
SAH to optimize your child… for what? So she can stay at home, miserable, with her child 10 or 20 years from now, just like you are?
Yes, I know that it is VERY difficult to find a good schooling match for a bright and gifted child. Homeschooling might be the best solution for the kid. But… school is not even 8 hours per day. Sometimes you just gotta compromise a little bit. Sometimes the kid is going to have to make sacrifices so that the mom (and it is nearly ALWAYS the mom) doesn’t lose her career ambitions and sanity as well. That’s ok. Life doesn’t have to be always perfect for just one member of the family. The family is a unit that moves forward together.
And maybe, just maybe, seeing mom fulfilled and career-driven and independent (while still being a loving mom) will work as a great role-model for the grown daughter, who realizes that life does get better after you graduate K-12, and she can balance a fulfilling career and family, and it is important for all family members to pull their own weight in order for this to happen.
Thanks, mom, for never quitting your job and brilliantly raising two strong, independent, hardworking, and intelligent daughters. I know we always came first, but it was good for us to know that we were never the only thing. Just like our children are/will be most important but never the the sole driving force behind our existence.
Disclaimer: We are not against SAHP. We just think it isn’t suited for some people, and don’t think these folks should be forcing themselves into SAHParenthood because of some notion that parents (mothers) must sacrifice everything for their children. If you enjoy it and it’s working for you and you can afford it, then go for it!
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