Femomhist has a series of posts in search of daddy bloggers that nears the end with this interesting penultimate discussion on the term “mommy blog.” Femomhist dislikes the term.
We don’t really have any problem with the terms “mommy blog” or “mommy forum,” if that’s what they are. Generally that indicates something focused on mothers of kids age 0-6 or so. (Older and they become “parenting” blogs… or, more often, the parents aren’t so tied to home and computer at that point or have developed other interests.) We’re not crazy about BlogHer and all its advertising, but not because of the term. I also don’t mind being called DC’smommy because I don’t remember other people’s names either when the only connection I have with them is their kids. If my colleagues or students called me DC’s mom instead of my first name or title, I’d get pissed, but if all you know about me is my kid, go ahead and call me by that relationship.
But what’s more interesting in the post, and the comments of her previous posts in this series is the observation that a lot of blogs are categorized as mommy blogs whose sole purpose is not motherhood, and if the parent were a different gender it wouldn’t be considered a daddy blog, even if the guy talks about his kid(s) a lot. For example, Retireby40 or Manvsdebt or even The Simple Dollar. Those are personal finance blogs. But if a woman wrote the exact same thing they’d be considered mommy blogs. That’s a problem. But it would still be a problem if they were termed parenting blogs if a woman wrote them and finance blogs if a man did.
Apple Pie and the universe added a poll to her blog– what kind of blog is it? In the comments it is interesting how folks who joined her blog at different times have different perceptions. But if her tag were mrcomethunter instead of mrs, would the perception be different? Would the telescope overshadow the clipart baby?
I didn’t really get when FSP and Historiann made a big deal about coming out as moms after hiding that identity for so long, but maybe they didn’t want to be positioned as mommy bloggers instead of science and history bloggers. It never really occurred to us. And honestly, we’re ok with being mommy bloggers about once a week, even if one of us has never reproduced (that she knows of).
Do you dislike the term “mommy blogger”?
Are you more likely to mentally categorize a blog as a mommy blog if it’s written by a woman rather than a man? (Would retire by 40 be a mommy blog instead of a personal finance blog were it written by a woman?)
How do you categorize your own blog?