Not sure what’s up with that.
They take your choices about things as personal indictments of theirs.
They take factual statements as personal indictments of their preferences. I blame Fox News for that one. “Reality has a well-known liberal bias.” (Colbert, White House Correspondence Dinner 2006.)
They think you actually care more about dictating their lives than you do your own. When in reality you really don’t notice them unless they bring things to your attention.
These folks live in a little cloud of drama and if you get sucked in, it can be very draining. Molehills become mountains instantaneously. Greys turn into sordid blacks and whites. Snowballs become avalanches. If you’re not the same as us or incredibly apologetic, you’re against us!
And if you suggest that maybe people don’t care about their lives as much as they think people do, they bring up myriad counter-examples, which probably actually just prove your point. Or would if you could talk to the accused offender.
Once they get out of your life, when they decide to cut you off, life either stays the same because you didn’t notice the drama (though they rarely cut you off without telling you precisely why and precisely what is wrong with you), or your life improves immensely. Perhaps a bit less entertaining, but it’s probably not healthy to get your entertainment from someone else’s negative delusions. (Why are they never positive delusions? Because little rays of sunshine tend to be self-fulfilling.)
Are we talking about you? Well… the answer to this question is: Do you think we are? We don’t think we are, but your answer to our question is also the answer to your question.