I read a comment that says that women are supposed to show that they’re always happy and everything is perfect, and they’re not allowed to complain.
I must be reading the wrong internet.
Either that or that’s only true of 1. women before they have children or 2. religious SAHM (I did read something regarding that, though I’m not sure how valid it is… probably depends on the cultural norms of the religion).
In any case, it seems to be the opposite to me– if you want people to not attack you on the ‘net, you gotta pretend you’re not happy. Even if you are. Because otherwise it’s your fault that other people are feeling bad by comparison.
I went through a period of my life in which I felt guilty for being perfect and was constantly trying to find fault in myself to make other people feel better about themselves. Guess what, it didn’t work and it made me miserable.
Being self-confident and acknowledging my awesomeness, and, importantly, the awesomeness of others, gets out of that crabs in a bucket framework and helps build everybody up. I’m awesome and you’re awesome too, even if you don’t realize it yet. We can all be more awesome, and one day we will, because how could we not? There’s so much awesomeness to build from.
Grumpy readers, do you think society forces women to pretend that they’re happy or that they’re unhappy? Are there differences in these pressures between IRL and the internet? Are there different expectations by cultural context? For example, are working moms supposed to be harried and not keeping it together but professional single women are supposed to have it all figured out? Or is there a “damned whatever you do” of competing pressures? (If there is, we recommend acknowledging your awesomeness since if you can’t win, you might as well be confident about it.)
Help us think this one out.