When did you first realize you were an adult? And what were some of the major growing pains in becoming an adult?
#1: Sometime during third grade. Then again shortly after age 30. Growing pains: the awakening of cynicism, followed by reluctant acceptance of other folks’ frailties. Forgive them Father for they know not what they do. (And yes, I see the irony there. But sometimes that feeling of superiority is all that keeps a person going in the face of stupidity or intolerance.)
#2: This is a weird question for me to answer. I pretty much always felt like an adult cruelly trapped in a child’s body. That caused me troubles in school. I moved away from home in high school, to go to boarding school, and never missed it. I had a checking account and managed my own budget. When I got to college I thought the other freshmen were seriously immature; well, to be fair, until I hit senior year I felt like most people my age were more immature then I was (I had this feeling strongly throughout childhood). Maybe a marker of being an adult was buying real furniture?
For me, the major growing pain in becoming an adult was the fact that I wasn’t one for so long! Also, of course, I did the usual complement of stupid-romance-crap in high school. Everybody’s gotta get their heart broken sometime.
In other words, I’ve pretty much always felt like I was an adult, even though of course I wasn’t. I’m enjoying my 30s for the sense that my external appearance is finally starting to reflect the age I’ve felt like I “really” was. Getting older is awesome!
#1: You can see why when I first met #2 I thought, “Kindred spirit.” Though even better than Diana, since Diana got kind of silly as she got older. I did think it was weird that I was the only freshman on my hall who showed up sans family (my family could only afford the one plane ticket– they did drive my sister up to the college she went to, but it was only a couple hours away). But everybody else there was on their own for the first time. And the number of people I taught how to do laundry… (seriously, just follow the instructions on the washers!)
How about you all? What’s your answer to Leah’s question?