Kids, career, other…
Within those, what are your priorities?
If you feel like you don’t have enough time for what you want to do, what can you outsource? What can you stop doing? What can you de-prioritize?
If there’s not enough money to outsource, where can you get the money? Or where can you get the time?
Don’t feel like you have to break the stick: work around the stick, let it bend, change its environment. Figure out which sacrifices are easiest to make, and which aren’t worth making.
I get it… it’s hard with a special snowflake or a demanding career, and maybe you want to give up the career or maybe you want to keep striving in it. It doesn’t have to be all or nothing. I haven’t watched a tv show in weeks… we still have netflix from months ago. Right now those aren’t my priorities. Maybe you need a housecleaner or to let your house become messy. Maybe your partner needs to step up and take on some responsibilities, or your kids. Maybe it’s time to hire a college student to chauffeur or give enrichment lessons or tutor or take the kids to the playground (my colleagues do all of these).
#2 chimes in: lazy housework FTW. I find I even have to prioritize within categories, e.g., food. Do I want it low-calorie, high-protein, easy, fast, cheap, full of veggies, locally grown, tasty? All these things can sometimes work together but all of them at once will probably conflict. So I have to focus on only one or two at a time. Right now I’m looking at calories but also trying to eat lots of protein. So I put more emphasis on those, and ignore the cost of the food (and some other things).
Retirement savings vs. extensive travel now? What’s worth spending on? Fund retirement or save for a house? (Both!)
Priorities are hard! Making decisions initially will drain some willpower, but once you have a system set up, it should (!) simplify everything.