The Imposter Syndrome and other forms of negativity can keep people, especially women, from achieving as much as they should. If you say enough negative things about yourself, eventually other people start to believe them too.
One of the things that we did back in graduate school (during the job market) was have a big jar named the “Negativity Jar.” Anytime we said something negative about ourselves, we would have to put a quarter in the jar (we were poor graduate students– you might want to up that to $1 or $5). That forced us to restructure to say things that were actually true– to get at what was actually bothering us, and not to reinforce the negative lies. It forced what Cognitive Behavioral Therapists call “Cognitive restructuring.”
After about 2 weeks there was no more money put in the jar. At the end of the year we were able to buy a little bit of chocolate, not the hard liquor we’d been planning on.
Have you ever had a problem with negative self-talk? What have you done to address it? Did it work?