We didn’t use one with DC1. Ze was really a thumb kid. I was fine with that… less plastic, you never lose it. I don’t think we even owned a pacifier. Plus I wasn’t making as much milk and DC1 spit up a lot more, so more suckling was required, no doubt helping with that need to suck.
The hospital sent one home with us with DC2. One night at 3am when an unhappy DC2 was obviously not hungry but was chewing on my breast (sometime after the nipple-confusion stage), we tried it in desperation. It worked.
I think we’re going to keep just the one, and we’re only going to use it when we’ve tried everything else and it’s obvious ze needs to suck on something other than my breast. I keep hoping that ze will discover hir thumb, but it hasn’t happened yet.
I never understood parents who forced pacis on their kids and complained that their kid wouldn’t take one no matter how hard they tried. And my confusion got larger when these same parents later complained that their toddler wouldn’t give up the pacifier ze had been forced to take as an infant. But now I totally understand the use of pacifiers. Sometimes baby just wants to suck on something and will destroy a breast if allowed.
I’m not sure if pacifiers can be used in moderation, but I’m hoping they can. We’re going to try, anyway. Anything* that brings sweet quiet to a dreadfully unhappy baby.
*Well, not *anything*… mommy won’t be drinking hard liquor until nursing is done, for example.
Was your kid a pacifier baby or a thumb baby or nothing at all? If you don’t have kids, do you remember which you were? Any fun stories to share?