Women faculty are not the same as faculty wives. If you’re going to invite the wives of male faculty, then it is not appropriate to invite the women faculty unless male faculty and partner/spouses of the women faculty are also invited. No offense to the lovely SAHW that my colleagues have, but if I have to socialize for work, then the men damn well better have to too.
Dear Authors, I should have rejected your manuscript to begin with. It was a really lousy paper (ex. did not say whether results were significant), but I thought it had promise and I guided you through a number of steps that turned it from an idea into a reasonably decent paper (also: it was for a crappy journal). In return, you have refused to do much of the work and you’re being an asshole about it. You have taught me not to be generous. Perhaps the true lesson here is to stop accepting referee assignments from crappy journals.
hopefully a guy will fix my keyboard in the next hour, or else it will have to be tomorrow and i will remain shiftless
Re: crazy people on the internet: I wish they weren’t on so many people’s blogrolls. You click on the tantalizing headline and it turns out to be a waste of time (because of the crazy).
DC2 can whistle. I have never seen anything like it. And then I’ll whistle too and then ze’ll smile and ze won’t be able to whistle anymore which will make hir upset, so ze’ll stop smiling, but then ze’ll be able to whistle again, so then I whistle too, which makes hir smile… Anyhow, it’s super cute.
Third bullet: I’m trying to imagine a social event that could prompt someone (even given a clueless/not thinking someone) to invite all faculty plus only female spouses. Sewing a commemorative departmental quilt? I give up.
In an old job I ended up friends with some of my co-workers wives, but this was pre husband and kids and I genuinely like these woman, so it was not a big deal. Now, I cannot imagine. My current office has social events a couple of times a year but in general we do not see each other outside of work. Fabulous.
I don’t mind meeting them at faculty events in which everyone is invited. I do not like being summoned by an administrator’s wife along with all the other female faculty and the female wives of male faculty (but no men). I am not a faculty wife. I am faculty. And not in the middle of a working day at someone’s house. Ridiculous.