Stop inviting me to baby showers and bridal showers! This is the third one this year. And they’re always addressed to me, or rather, to my first name and DH’s lastname. It wouldn’t bother me so much if they were addressed The DHslastname Family or DH and family or even DH and DH’s wife. But no, it’s always just me on the address line.
I have to ask DH who you are. Sometimes he can’t remember. He has a lot of cousins and second cousins and third cousins.
I am not actually related to you. I live a two days drive away. I am not going to come to your event and you know that. Especially when I get the invite the day before the event. The RSVP line on the invite is a joke.
If it’s a wedding, we probably won’t go to that either, but we’ll send you a gift if you invite us. Us, being the family. Because you are DH’s relative. Not mine. We’re not going to send anything for a bridal shower.
If you need money for the new baby, then the appropriate etiquette is to send an announcement to DH and his family after the baby is born. Then we’ll send you a big Walmart giftcard so you can buy diapers or whatever. But that’s because DH is related to you. Not me. Leave me alone.
I know that I’m privileged that I don’t need to be tapping every twig of the family tree in order to get basics for the baby. But I’d still prefer it if you invited DH to the damn baby shower or bridal shower, and not me. I don’t know you from Adam and I resent being asked for money from strangers. I don’t resent it when you ask him because he’s your relative. You are his problem, and our problem, but definitely not my problem. (Addendum: I’d feel more like getting something off your baby registry if it wasn’t full of things like $64 nightlights.)
And don’t get me started on being invited to faculty wives’ events. #@$#$@#$#@$!!!
This has been a PSA tiny rant.
Do you get these kinds of invitations? Do they annoy you? Should I be annoyed?