whatever that is
I don’t. The only time I even come across this concept is when I accidentally click on the NYTimes or spend too much time on blogrolls full of professional mommy-bloggers making their money pretending to be SAHM. (Oops, hear that sound? that’s the sound of us losing readership because we’re terrible horrible people who could never make it on BlogHer. Whoops!)
From what I can tell it has something to do with being Martha Stewart + Sheryl Sandberg put together. Not 100% sure there. And not having an equal partner in parenting and taking care of the homestead, despite living with an adult husband. Having a sparkly clean house definitely fits in there as a measure as your worth as a person. Thank goodness nobody I know IRL ever talks about that kind of thing. We would have to get a house-cleaner or something.
Maybe this is why people get weird about how much responsibility we’ve piled on our elementary schooler. Maybe I’m supposed to be taking care of all that stuff under the super-mom rubric. Meh.
This is kind of like that post where we asked if baking was a *thing* in reality or just on the internet.
I was flipping through mommy blogs recently and felt like I’d seen every single topic before and had already posted a reaction post, like 2-4 years ago. Some of my reaction posts though aren’t very polite to post on people’s sites who are clearly hurting because the patriarchy is making them believe stupid things. Still, I kind of wish I could. WTF is up with people’s entire feelings of value and worth being wrapped up in whether or not their house is clean? Oh wait, we already asked that two years ago. Oh and Choice feminism, we’ve addressed you (we’re pro-, but not for the standard, why can’t we all get along reasons). Women feeling like they have to say they’re not perfect, check. Why we can thank our mothers for not feeling guilty for working… And what is UP with all that guilt in parenting nonsense in the first place? If you believe the internet, all women hate each other, are neurotic about the state of their houses, and are wracked with extreme guilt about their parenting choices (or are super defensive about not being parents). That just doesn’t mesh with our reality AT ALL. The internet is a super weird place.
Am I just oblivious and is this super-mom pressure really a thing? Or is it yet another way the patriarchy introduces anxieties to women in order to make money off them?