Have you ever noticed that nobody ever says “those racists got what’s coming to them” or “if they didn’t want to get killed they shouldn’t have been racist.”
But they do say, “if they didn’t want to get killed/raped/etc.” they shouldn’t have provoked/been someplace where they could be noticed by/etc. a person in power?
You don’t get blamed if you get hurt when you’re punching down. Nobody expects people to shoot back. When they do, you can’t be blamed for not expecting it. But punching up? You should have known better. Don’t carry a gun if you’re not white. Do everything the police office says, no matter how illegally he is treating you. Don’t speak out against rapists or internet harassers. If you do, you deserve to become a target (except that you never deserve that).
If you are in a group with less privilege it is always automatically your fault (by popular opinion, though not in truth, never in truth). You are not innocent specifically because you are not a Christian (or atheist– only the super-privileged are allowed to admit to atheism) white male. It’s like your original sin– not being born with privilege.
Because you’re not privileged, then you should *know* that the world is a dangerous and scary place and you have to stay in your home, wearing a burqa, surrounded by robot body-guards. If you’re privileged then you don’t have to do that because the world simply *isn’t* a dangerous and scary place for you. You have to actively seek a career like drug-trafficking before people start going, “hey, you should have done something to prevent yourself from becoming a victim.” It’s simply unthinkable that it could ever be a Christian white guy’s fault.
Wouldn’t it be nice if nobody ever thought to victim blame? If everybody were extended the same grace that white guys in power are given? That we could focus on the people causing the crimes rather than the people victimized by them?
But that’s patriarchy for you. Culture is against you, therefore you’re in double-jeopardy. You’re damned from the start. And doubly so if you try to fight it, if you try to do what those white Christian (and atheist) guys take for granted every moment of every day.