So, DC1 is grade-skipped by two grades. Ze is in a private school.
That means that we have no idea what grade ze is going to be in next year when ze goes to public school in a new state.
Which means we’ve been calling around a lot.
And getting a bizarre range of answers about how schools would determine grade level for DC1 in our situation. How big a range?
1. DC1 starts in 3rd grade, period. Then the teacher observes for 6 weeks. Then a team including the principal discusses the situation and most likely keeps DC1 in 3rd grade, even though ze would be the oldest non-red-shirted kid in the grade.
2. It’s up to the principal.
3. The administration would assess DC1 to determine what would be appropriate. If ze is ready for 5th grade, that is where ze would go. In additional to educational components, they will assess emotional and social components. Writing it out this way makes it sound a lot nicer than how they sounded over the phone, which hit both DH and me with a lot of bad memories about our childhood, with the emphasis on emotional/social. (Because if you’re out of synch with your same-age peers, you’re failing at emotional/social which means they won’t let you skip… Catch-22.) (#2 is still mad about people not letting me skip a grade for social reasons… guess what, I didn’t have friends in school ANYWAY so at least I could have learned something… grumble.) (#1 would have had friends if she’d been grade skipped.)
4. Need to take educational documentation including letter from teacher/principal and report card. The documentation will be reviewed by school administration.
5. Based on age it would be 4th grade (different cut-off date?), but school records indicating completion of 4th grade would allow DC1 to be placed in 5th.
6. Ze would be placed in 5th grade automatically.
7. Ze would be placed in 5th grade and then given a placement test for homogeneous math grouping placement. Bring materials to help teacher/administration work with DC1. Would need special reasons to be placed in a grade below 5th. (“Is it because you’re calling from the South [and worried that a blue state education would be too advanced]?” the confused administrator asked.)
8. Skip approved with proof of why skipped for special reasons.
So we’re narrowing down our search to #4-8, mainly because #3 gave off such negative vibes. #7 sounds great, but has very few, if any, houses, mostly apartments and the apartments are interspersed with undergraduate housing. So we might look out there, but not until we get closer. #6 is a substantial commute for me and very suburban… not unlike where we live now. #5 has fifth grade in middle school, not elementary school like all the other districts in the area. #4 is a pretty good bet in terms of houses, commute times, and walkability, but I’m a bit nervous about where they would really place DC1. Still, they have some really nice (not cheap!) houses and the commute is great.
I guess the moral is that different places do things widely differently, sometimes even in a smallish geographic area?