We’ve had this post title for a really long time in the draft. And we know exactly what we mean. But… we really don’t want to talk about it.
Middle school leaves scars that can hurt well into middle-age, possibly longer. They’re revisited less frequently with age, but occasionally we will be reminded to feel completely socially inadequate, even though we’re adults and we know it wasn’t us it was them and once we were allowed to control who we spent time with we were no longer friendless or bullied or ostracized. But the scars are still there. Scars that one of us is trying her best to keep her children from ever acquiring.
John Green says it well.