A village parenting story

The other weekend I was standing in a long long line for a bouncy slide with DC2.

There was a woman behind me.  After letting someone cut in line behind her, her daughters kept running in front and trying to get to the slide.  And she kept ineffectually calling her daughters’ names and making grabs for one of them.

When I got right at the front of the line, I stuck my arm out as one of the daughters made a break for it to run up the slide in front of DC2 who was waiting patiently until it the teenager in charge said it was safe to go up. The daughter ran into my arm instead of up the slide.

This is the kind of thing that parents around here do all the time, catch other people’s kids when they’re making a break for it, because the parents tend to be upper class and the streets are close by and dangerous so parents (right or wrong) tend to have more fear of their kid getting away than of other parents. (I don’t know if I mentioned that DH literally saved a kid’s life earlier this year.  A toddler had wandered from the playground into the parking lot to get something from his parent’s van and was about to get backed over by an SUV.  DH ran his bike in front of the SUV to stop it from backing up, which made the SUV driver upset until she realized what had almost happened.  DH returned the kid to a frantic parent who had been looking all over the playground for the kid.)

In any case, this horrible woman then chewed me out for touching her daughter and she had everything under control etc., but of course she didn’t.

Later that day I recounted this story to our friends out here, and they individually said, “were the daughters names Olivia and Isabella?”  And was the older one Isabella and the younger one Olivia and Olivia a year or two older than DC2?  Did the woman have brown hair?  And the answer is yes.  Apparently this woman has a reputation and it wasn’t me at all.  I imagine she thought my arm was some kind of comment on her parenting (which it wasn’t until she chewed me out about it!)

(After DC2 went down the slide I said no more fair activities because the horrible woman was going to the last thing DC2 hadn’t done, so I was like, let’s go to the library instead.  And so we did.  And I witnessed lots of village parenting and parents thanking other parents for helping out instead of chewing them out and it was nice.  And then we went to another event at DC2’s daycare and I was even more hands on with keeping other people’s preschoolers out of trouble since parents were busy volunteering and I ended up on kid duty somehow.  People seemed grateful.)

I think where we normally live there’s much less of an atmosphere of village parenting, but there’s usually hardly anyone at the park or playground because everyone has a play structure in their back-yard.  And disgruntled women like the one at the park are more likely to be carrying a concealed weapon.  I’m not sure I would have automatically prevented a kid from going up a slide back where we usually live, no matter how dangerous.  But the teenagers in charge of the event would also probably have been better at keeping things safe.

What’s it like where you live in terms of village parenting vs. minding your own business?  How do you feel about other people stopping your child when he or she is making a break for it?



How to cast Muppet Hamilton

After my post on How to cast Muppet Sweeney Todd, my partner, who is obsessed with Hamilton like everyone else, figured out how to cast Muppet Hamilton, with a little help from me.

Alexander Hamilton – Kermit the Frog

Aaron Burr – Gonzo the Great

Elizabeth Schuyler – Miss Piggy

Marquis de Lafayette / Thomas Jefferson – Dr. Teeth
George Washington – Rowlf the Dog
Hercules Mulligan / John Madison – Fozzy Bear
John Laurens / Phillip Hamilton – Scooter

Peggy Schuyler / Maria Reynolds – Denise (the other female pig muppet)

King George – Sam the Eagle [hahaha]

Angelica Schuyler – ???

Now the problem we’re running into here is that there’s really a dearth of female Muppets, especially ones who are smart and not children.  We talked about Janice, but Angelica is smart and my partner didn’t think Janice would fit.  Prairie Dawn is too young.  Camilla is too much a chicken, I guess?
The best I could come up with, which I think is a good solution, is Bert in a wig.  Lin Manuel Miranda has already said he wouldn’t mind gender-bending some of the casting.  Bert is smart and angsty and old enough to be a love interest.  The other solution is to include some human beings in the cast, but that’s no fun.
Moar female Muppets!  Who’s with me?
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What do you do when someone doesn’t cash a check?

So, our landlord cashed Jan’s rent check (and all the checks prior), and March’s rent, but not February or April’s or May’s…

Would you check in with him to ask what’s up?


update:  he has cashed April and May, so now only feb is missing.  Also there is a $15 check cancellation fee from our credit union if we cancel the check.

Sunday afternoon link love

Yeah, so caffeine withdrawal isn’t pretty.  Related to that, updates may not be regular for the next couple months (there’s no post scheduled as of this typing for Tuesday, for example) because deadlines.  We’re fine, just busy.

PSA:  That frozen veggies recall has been way expanded from before.

The minecraft generation

note to self: check out reader comments on these

Astounding is right.  He does not understand interest rates.  Trump is gonna run this country like he runs his businesses:  into the ground.

This is so true.

Cinco de Mayo PSA from Gatos de Noticias

Oooh, snakes!

This is kinda NSFW

Your Free Trump Score (TM) is:  570

xykademiqz calling advance readers

Can you not pac

He really should have

Love IT

Misty Copeland Barbie

Larry Wilmore breaking it down for the confused

Georgia governor actually vetoes campus carry bill.   It is so weird to see a Republican actually interested in preserving individual freedoms these days.

Check out these new bios of early American women.

This is depressing

Math + cooking

Hot take

We still don’t get this.

This industry and living life on the lowest difficulty setting

Fluent cat

on homeowners insurance

Ask the grumpies: Who is #1?

Meaghan asks:

Who is #1 and who is #2?

#1 is the person who started the post (or comment).  #2 is the other person.  We thought about doing “This one” and “That one” instead but decided that was too pretentious.


  • DH says:  the shower epiphany fairy says to use piano wire
  • TFW the day before you are about to give a talk you check your presentation and your external harddrive has an error that has caused said presentation to disappear.
  • And the silence while you desperately check your automatic backup for a copy.
  • TFW you realize the corrections you made didn’t show up on your harddrive’s backup because it only syncs when you plug in, not when you are working.
  • But thank goodness you at least have a copy you can make changes to and you don’t have to start over from scratch.  I sure hope I caught them all and hope I didn’t make any new slides that are now gone…
  • Before we got our new clothes washer, DH had to buy another pack of underpants because apparently he was the only person in the family who didn’t have enough clothing to last until Tuesday.
  • Latest piece of ridiculousness:  the “room mother” has asked each elementary school student to bring in a single flower on Tuesday morning for Teacher Appreciation Week (to be gathered into a bouquet for the teacher).  At the end of the email was a little passive aggressive note about not letting your child feel left out because of not participating.  She did not translate the email into any of the common non-English languages spoken by school families.  She did not think about the fact that a majority of kids live in apartments and do not have gardens and that Tuesday is not a great day for people who shop on the weekends.  I predict that the school will lose some of its foliage as a result.
  • DH says there is no point in filing a magnet (it doesn’t get smaller).
  • DH says, it took two weeks and $3000, but now when I pull this lever, this magnet spins.
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How to cast Muppet Sweeney Todd

Cast overview, first billed only:
Kermit Kermit the Frog
Sweeney Todd
Helena Bonham Carter Miss Piggy
Uncle Deadly The Phantom of the Muppet Show
Timothy Spall Rowlf
Lew Zealand
The Great Gonzo
Fozzie Bear (in a wig)
Prairie Dawn (with a pet chicken)
Ed Sanders Robin

Well, I think I took care of that!

Now, Grumpeteers, how would you cast Muppet Hamilton?

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