Why is it so darn hard to stop worrying about what other people do? At work, I can’t control what others do. Their choices do affect me, somewhat. But I can’t control it. How do I learn to stop fretting about this?
#1: Heck if we know. I suck at not worrying. I mean, maybe just get older and you care less about what other people are doing? I dunno.
#2: Getting older helps a lot! There’s just too much going on to care about other people unless it directly affects you.
I’m irritated that my TA isn’t getting problem sets done on time. I worry that my students will learn less because of it. I’m worried that there is something I could do that would make things better but I’m not sure what. I’m not sure there’s anything wrong with me having those worries. And maybe fretting will help me come to a solution, I dunno.
Economists tend to really take to heart the idea that we should not fret about sunk costs, but to do cost-benefit analysis for things that we could still change. If it’s worth it, change it, if it’s not worth it, then you’ve made the decision. If it’s something you really can’t control, just accept it and expect it because there’s nothing else you can do. (Serenity…)
But in reality, I dunno. There’s often just too much uncertainty so you don’t really know what the costs and benefits are and it’s not clear what the effects of any action would be. People are unpredictable.
So I guess we’re punting this one too (we tend to put the hard ask the grumpies last…). Does the grumpy nation have any advice?