• I think I’m going through premature ovarian failure.  I had stopped showing symptoms for a while so my doctor wasn’t all that concerned at my annual check-up other than doing the usual thyroid check and a (less usual) prolactin check to rule out other stuff, but symptoms have returned.  I do not like them.
  • It’s more than a little depressing that when I ask my colleagues “Where would you move?” each one of them has an immediate answer because they’ve thought hard about which countries to go to if they had to flee.  We’re kind of in a bad situation for that given that the countries that do DH’s thing aren’t necessarily the best for me (especially since I am hopeless at German– Ich sprecke nicht!), but in an emergency, if we were able to get our savings out of the country, I think we’d be able to retire without working to Spain, which I think I could handle.  I don’t want to be an ex-pat though– I am too patriotic.  I want to save my country instead.
  • DH found my faculty ID when he was sorting stuff for taxes.  Putting off getting a replacement for >6 months for the win!
  • I want to buy a t-shirt that says, “Dismal Scientist” but I may have to make one.
  • We bought silverware at a discount kitchen place when we were grad students.  After having my spoon bend again while eating ice cream, I decided that maybe it’s time to get a grown-up set of flatware.  After reading a lot of reviews, I determined that silverware sets have gone down in price quite a bit since we last shopped for them, but mainly because they’re really bad quality.  Lots of complaints about rusting and not being dishwasher safe for things that are supposed to be made of the highest quality material.  Pieces in the same sets aren’t standardized.  Production is mainly in Vietnam, Indonesia, and China, which wouldn’t be a problem except that there’s no quality control on the finished products, even from name-brands like Oneida and Lenox.  So we’re trying out the one remaining US manufacturer which is more expensive but seems to be getting pretty rave reviews.  You can get a set of 3 factory-seconds to try out different patterns for $8 (including shipping and handling), so that’s what we’re doing.  I’ll write a full post if it works out.  (Lots of the online reviews about it are in exchange for a free place setting, ours won’t be– they don’t know we exist.)
  • DH didn’t get an oxford comma joke that I showed him.  I had to explain what the Oxford comma was.  He still didn’t get it.  Readers, it was the first time I have ever questioned our marriage.  But then he said he always puts the comma there in a list so I said we could stay together.  Whew.
  • DC1 is better at piano now than I ever was.
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36 Responses to “RBOC”

  1. Solitary Diner Says:

    I’m curious to hear how the Liberty flatware goes. I bought a lot of Oneida flatware a few years ago, thinking it was a good brand name, and it has gotten dull/spotted and even rusted in a few places. My only consolation is that it was really cheap and so I won’t feel too bad about replacing it; however, I had being that wasteful.

  2. Leah Says:

    I am sad about low quality flatware. Like we talked about previously, I really love the stuff we got for our wedding 8 years ago. It’s been great. But it also occurs to me that we don’t use a dishwasher, so perhaps that also helps with not rusting. I also wonder if having hard water (and thus basic, not acidic) helps with less rusting.

  3. Dame Eleanor Hull Says:

    The Oxford comma makes so much sense. I can’t understand why it isn’t accepted everywhere.

      • Rented Life Says:

        We have a client who does not use it. I keep putting it in and the editor keeps taking it out. Drives me nuts.

    • Debbie M Says:

      I remember learning that the comma meant “and,” so having both the comma and the “and” was redundant. So for a very long time I used it only for clarity. Everyone around me (all of whom I greatly respect) insists we must use it all times, regardless, though, so now I try to (but I still have my old habit).

  4. Paul Lamb Says:

    Good luck with your flatware quest. I ALWAYS use an Oxford comma!

  5. Shannon Says:

    We got our silverware from Crate and Barrel many, many years ago when we got married. Still going strong. Our only problem is that the quantity we don’t have as many pieces as we used to as they get misplaced and such. Not sure if their stuff is still as good, but we’d buy from there again any time. Also NSWF language, but here’s what Vampire Weekend has to say about the Oxford Comma:

  6. monsterzero Says:

    How many spaces does DH put after a period?

    • nicoleandmaggie Says:

      I don’t know. That one doesn’t get to me because I know the only reason I do two was because when I was in middle school the faculty person in charge of the school newspaper forced me to redo everything until two spaces became a habit.

  7. independentclause Says:

    What was the joke? My spouse is not allowed to say the name “Jane Austen” in order to avoid my questioning our marriage. It’s better for all involved.

  8. First Gen American Says:

    I just got a new flatware set for Xmas. It was a Japanese brand whose name I forget. My MIL got it at Bed Bath and Beyond. It isn’t as good as my 20 year old Oneida flatware and does show rust and spots in the dishwasher…even though it was one of the more expensive sets. It’s definitely hefty so won’t bend or break but the rust and water marks were never a problem with my old set. I’d stay away from the brushed/satin finishes. I think that just makes it worse.

    As I do work with designers for a living, it does make me sad how there is such pressure to keep cost reducing products until they turn to garbage. The reality is that things don’t dramatically change until those companies start losing market share. My wish is that there are more companies that startup that offer quality products (there’s a great podcast by the founder of Patagonia on NPR about this). I wish there were more companies with the same philosophy…to not be driven only by profit and growth. I just hope there are enough consumers out there that are willing to pay more for things that will last.

  9. CG Says:

    We have a Yamazaki set (Hafnia is the pattern) that is now 15 years old. It has held up great, except for a while when it all started to get dull. We switched dishwasher detergents and the dullness went away right away. I have bought a few extra pieces over the last couple of years and the quality doesn’t seem any less than when we got the original set. Good luck!

  10. undine Says:

    I bought Oneida flatware decades ago & it’s still going strong & rust-free. Maybe it was made in the US back then? I bought a newer kind about 10 years ago which is also rust-free, but I can’t remember the brand.

  11. bethh Says:

    Do you know when Oneida moved overseas? I bought a set from them ~10 years ago and then an additional set maybe 4 years ago. I haven’t really needed the additional pieces for the most part – with the exception of spoons! Never enough spoons!

    I guess I’ll keep an eye out at goodwill/yard sales for things that I like.

  12. accm Says:

    I’ve had Ikea flatware for everyday use for about 5 years now. No spotting issues or bendy spoons that I’ve noticed.

  13. The frugal ecologist Says:

    No Oxford comma for me.

    Oneida baguette. It’s restaurant quality – buy each piece in sets of 12. It’s awesome. The pieces are BIG and heavy which I like. Ours look brand new 7+ years on. Recently bought more spoons and didn’t notice any difference in quality.

    • nicoleandmaggie Says:

      … WAS restaurant quality. There’s a lot of variation with the newer stuff. It isn’t all bad, but there’s a lot of problems with quality control and bad batches getting through. Sometimes they even send things with different designs because the Indonesia (I think… maybe it was Vietnam) factory and the China factory have slightly different versions of the design.

  14. chacha1 Says:

    fwiw we got Oneida flatware early on, I got tired of the ornate pattern and swapped it out with a vintage set I bought on Etsy for cheap. Made in Japan in the 60s. I like it.

    What I really hate about the new flatware is the pieces you’re meant to put in your mouth are so damn BIG. Maybe they are making them bigger to go with the bigger dinner plates. (Old dinner plates are not 10″ across.)

    Oxford comma: yes please.

    Sorry to hear about the malfunctioning ovaries. Female system design is flawed.

  15. Debbie M Says:

    Ha! Procrastination for the win!

  16. Revanche @ A Gai Shan Life Says:

    Every time I think about how I’d get our money out of the country and whether I should start putting some of it away now, out of the country, I balk internally. This is my country too, and I want to save it, not get run out!

    We don’t use our grown up flatware much, we’re still using our IKEA stuff, but it’s held up. Can share the name with you later if you want it. Also, the IKEA stuff is remarkably good.

  17. Lisa Says:

    Did you see this?

    Oxford comma for the win!

  18. Middle class revolution Says:

    you might appreciate this Oxford comma story..https://mobile.nytimes.com/2017/03/16/us/oxford-comma-lawsuit.html

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    […] we noted before, we had been using the same set of cheap silverware since we were in graduate school.  One day […]

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