#2 and I were talking the other day.
She is happiest when her money needs are taken care of but she doesn’t have a job. She reads. She rides horsies. She plays with kittens at the animal shelter. She enjoys life. Employment requires a higher dose of anti-depressants.
Her DH is the same– he enjoys not working. He has no work stress if he has no work.
If they were independently wealthy they’d never work again!
I, on the other hand, vacation very badly. I hate not working. I mean, I love not working on weekends except to read novels, do chores, and hang out with the fam, and probably a 30 hour work week would be ideal if I could just get everything done I needed to get done in that time, but I like having a job. Depending on where I am and what the activities are, after a week or two weeks of forced vacation I start getting depressed. Whenever I get 3 months off, I start writing a (very bad) novel. Thankfully a summer is the most I’ve ever not had either school work or research to do. These days, summers mean I get to work on research with fewer interruptions. I’m happiest when I have a manageable to-do list that I can just crank through. It is true that I prefer having done things to getting things done, but it’s hard to have one without the other. And I love the feeling of flow. I like helping people and things grow. I like getting checks for things I would have done anyway. I love money and income so much. I love not having to think about our expenditures. I don’t know that I’d do this job without this paycheck, but I would be doing something work-like.
My DH needs work too, but his reasons are that he needs regular feedback and validation on what he’s doing and he needs to feel as if he’s making the world a better place. He doesn’t actually need paid employment, but he does need a regular occupation. It is no surprise that whenever he shows up at a non-profit meeting (be it activism or DC1’s former school) he’s immediately given assignments which he carries out faithfully.
What about you? Do you need work or would you be perfectly happy entertaining yourself non-productively? Or are there productive things you’d like to do outside of the work framework? (To be fair, petting shelter-kitties is both enjoyable *and* productive, though not lucrative.)