yet another pf blog asks:
Is there anything you wish you had done before you were married? How about before you had kids?
#1: One of us doesn’t have kids so the point is moot over here. (#2, got anything?) What would I have done differently before I got married? I can’t think of anything. Being with my partner has made the rest of my life easier and more fun.
#2: Hm, I got married young. I can’t really imagine single life before marriage. I mean, I did date some losers in college, mainly because I didn’t know how to say no and a small amount because of the novelty of guys thinking I was amazing. Those are not good reasons, so it was a huge relief in grad school to be able to stick my hand up and point to the ring when loser guys hit on me. So definitely not dating other guys (or other people, more generally– I used to think I was DH-sexual, but now I’m fairly sure I’m… what was that word I discovered on captain awkward? I can’t remember but it’s the one where you have to really get invested in a person before you find them physically attractive, so it seems like asexuality, but it really isn’t. That’s what I am. Except younger Pierce Brosnan– he’s still hot, but who knows, maybe I just liked Remmington Steele.). Everything else I can do while married, I think.
Before kids we didn’t have money. Now we have money. Perhaps I wish we had money before kids? Though getting money at the same time as kids was pretty useful and caused our standard of living to go up instead of down, so maybe not that. Yeah, I got nuthin’. I’m not big into regret… maybe it’s time spent in LA with the constant message that everything happens for a reason. Or maybe it’s just the sunk cost moving forward training in economics. I guess I wish I’d published more! But I wish I’d published more after kids too… it’s sort of a never-ending thing with an academic career.
Grumpy nation, is there any day seizing you wish you’d done in the past?