9 Responses to “DH’s family summer vacation this year”

  1. Cloud Says:

    Planning vacations with extended family is hard! But… that’s what we’re doing this year. We want to take my older daughter to Prince Edward Island while she’s still young enough to really get into the Anne of Green Gables stuff (she loves the books), and since my parents had been talking about visiting Nova Scotia and PEI, too, we decided to all go at the same time. So far, coordinating things is going well. I think our final cost will be a lot more than $2500, though! I hadn’t realized how few flights there are into Halifax when I first suggested the idea. My parents are flying somewhere in New England and driving up, but we don’t have enough time to do that, so we’re sucking it up and paying for flights into Halifax. But travel is one of the things we happily spend money on so I don’t really mind. I’ll do the initial planning for our family (with input from my husband and the kids), and then negotiate with my parents and sister to figure out the overall plan. I enjoy vacation planning, so although it takes a lot of time, I don’t really mind doing it.

    We happen to have done a beach holiday with my in laws over Christmas, too. My husband and SIL did most of the planning on that one.

    We don’t do extended family vacations every year, though! That would be too much for me. There are no conflicts within my family or with my in-laws, but we like to have our own time, too.

  2. CG Says:

    We do vacations with grandparents every two or three years. Like Cloud, I value the time with the grandparents highly and they and our kids have made some wonderful memories, but it’s also important for us to be forced to just be us for a concentrated period of time. DH and I plan trips together, although it majorly stresses me out to plan–not sure why. He’s the one who prods us to get it done.

  3. Abigail @ipickuppennies.net Says:

    I’m boring and the only trip I really take each year is to go to FinCon. Though this year I’m going to go a few days early so that I can do some touristy stuff beforehand. I do want to start traveling more, but I don’t get paid time off, and I’m the only person on my shift. Other people have to work extra shifts when I go away. So I don’t like to leave work for too long at any one time. As it is, FinCon + 3-5 days beforehand will be stretching it quite a bit guilt-wise.

  4. First Gen American Says:

    We have 3 family members coming to our house from Poland for 3 weeks in July. So we’ll do the New Englandy tourist stuff. I will have to rent a van as our car can’t seat everyone. The kids are taking a fishing trip with my husband in Canada as well. I am not going on the fishing trip. My husband isn’t going to do the city stuff so we can maximize our vacation time with the kids.

    Lots of people think it’s strange that we don’t take all our vacations together but it’s just practical. We do a big family vacation every other year.

  5. Revanche @ A Gai Shan Life Says:

    At this moment in time, I have very little interest in doing extended-family vacations beyond what we already do every year for the holidays. That’s enough of a dose on one side and the other side doesn’t have the money for vacations as such, mostly. We just get together and spend time together, that’s good enough for us at this age and stage. I typically do the heavy lifting on travel plans though if we’re visiting family, that’s not a vacation. We don’t vacation every year, we see various branches of family once or twice a year, and then add a vacation once every two or three years.

    That actually reminds me that I have to make some arrangements for the end of the year.

    • nicoleandmaggie Says:

      DH is the only family member who lives out of state… he has a very close-knit family. Unlike mine, which is scattered all over the US.

      He’d be perfectly happy to just hang out and have the kids hang out, but I think MIL is so set on being the perfect grandma and doing things she’s not crazy about like extensive homemade cooking that she can only handle that once a year. It’s a lot of work! There’s less pressure for her when they go elsewhere.

      Since I wrote this post, I’ve actually booked two more trips because I’m going on conferences in places DH would like to go (my favorite family vacation: I spend all day at a conference while the rest of the family sight-sees). For one of them we’re only taking DC2 because DC1 will be in camp and we’re using DH’s frequent flyer miles to fly out his mom to take care of DC1.

      • Revanche @ A Gai Shan Life Says:

        Ohhh yeah cooking for that big a crowd is no kind of a vacation.

        I also wanted to say that I don’t think it’s crass that you think about whether the Parents-in-law are paying for SIL etc or not, I think it’s kind and thoughtful. But that’s because it’s something I would appreciate.

  6. RBOC | Grumpy Rumblings (of the formerly untenured) Says:

    […] The other SIL also decided to stay at home from this summer’s vacation. […]


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