What are your love languages?

I’ve been listening to the By the Book Podcast recently, and one of their books was the 5 love languages.  So DH and I took the 5 love languages quiz online (you have to put in an email, but you can totally put in a fake email– they will still give you your results at the end in addition to emailing them to you).

Here’s our results:


10 Acts of Service
7 Physical Touch
7 Quality Time
6 Words of Affirmation
0 Receiving Gifts


9 Physical Touch
8 Quality Time
8 Words of Affirmation
5 Acts of Service
0 Receiving Gifts

I think this works out very nicely for me because it means DH can show he cares by doing stuff for me.  I just have to provide the physical touch and quality time that I also value!  Total win for me!  And, of course, words of affirmation which are super easy when he’s doing stuff that I appreciate.  It’s a great exchange.  :)

What are your love languages?


12 Responses to “What are your love languages?”

  1. Steph Says:

    It’s great when your languages and your loved one’s languages work out like that :)

    I read the “love languages for singles” a few years back – my primary one is touch by a big margin (a sad fact of my life currently is that I have no cuddly friends close by, nor do I have a partner to snuggle with. I am a bit touch-starved.) I think acts of service and quality time (activities) were roughly tied as the next two.

    • nicoleandmaggie Says:

      You do stuff for me, I praise you == THE BEST COMBO

      I heard an Ask Dr. Zorba some weekend that talked about how massage was really good for people in that situation, like physiologically. (The idea being everyone needs some amount of touch and massage does more than just get kinks out of muscles, but in ways we do not yet fully understand.)

  2. Revanche @ A Gai Shan Life Says:

    I don’t need a test to know this one: Acts of Service, for both of us. This is how we express our appreciation for each other. I do think we should figure out our secondary ones though.

  3. Becca Says:

    Apparently I’m…

    8 Acts of Service
    7 Physical Touch
    7 Quality Time
    5 Words of Affirmation
    3 Receiving Gifts

    Physical touch is important for both my SO and I, but, er… different flavors?

  4. xykademiqz Says:

    I tried the test, but didn’t finish because it annoyed me too much. All the questions are “What’s more important to you: to wear good shoes while walking or to brush teeth with a toothbrush?” I don’t know, they are both pretty important and I can’t compare them because they are so different. Except that I know I don’t give a damn about gifts; never have. I am also very affectionate with husband and kids, but not touchy-feely at all with anyone else (I will hate you if you try to hug me).

  5. Quid Novum Infernum Says:

    TDO and I took the quiz a while back, and I remember Physical Touch was his top language by a wide margin (I’m Acts of Service) because I’ve been trying to remember to act on the impulse to hug, etc. I couldn’t find the results when I read this post and asked him to take it again, and now Physical Touch is second and Words of Affirmation is first. I guess this means his needs for touch are being met…?

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