So… how to donate to DC2’s classrooms this year?

In Kindergarten and First Grade, we donated $1K anonymously to DC2’s classroom teachers for “differentiation, independent learning, and/or enrichment”.  We would like to do that again this year.

The problem is that DC2 skipped second grade.  And DC2 is the *only* kid who skipped second grade.  If the third grade teachers get the same gift cards that the K and 1st grade teachers got last year and the second grade teachers don’t, it will be pretty obvious who the anonymous donor is.  And we really don’t want to seem like we’re buying favors from the school.

So here’s my crazy thought.

Give the second grade teachers the same gift cards for “differentiation, independent learning, and/or enrichment”, and give the third grade teachers slightly different cards (or maybe just one card to share) with no such restrictions.  After all, DC2 is more on-level this year and they’re doing a pretty good job with differentiation in math (though there’s a very real chance that they will run out of packets for DC2 sometime after winter break, even assuming a slow-down in the rate zie is going).

Then next year, only give the unrestricted donation to the fourth grade teachers.

DH was initially confused by this idea– DC2 isn’t in the second grade class.  Why donate?  But then he decided he didn’t like the idea of it seeming like we’re bribing them for DC2 skipping a grade and has warmed up to the idea.

The alternative is to not give at all.  Or to give something less useful than cash gift cards.

What do you think?

8 Responses to “So… how to donate to DC2’s classrooms this year?”

  1. rose Says:

    Does it matter and to whom? You know what your child is doing and how; other people’s opinions do not matter. Who will know what gift cards a teacher gets? Look at your own financial abilities, the number of children you have, do what you wish to do.
    Really what you are doing is subsidizing the education of your child’s grade/class. GIven public school realities, this is lovely of you and more than your child will benefit. Thank you for sharing the opportunities to the benefit of other children than just yours.

    • nicoleandmaggie Says:

      We don’t want it to seem like we’re bribing anybody, and we don’t want DC2 to get special treatment because we’ve given money. So we prefer anonymity. But how to achieve that anonymity seems difficult this year.

  2. Revanche @ A Gai Shan Life Says:

    If you can easily bear the cost of the double gift, I like that solution as it sort of masks you as the possible donors. It might still be apparent to someone connecting the dots that the gifts correlate to the grades that DC2 would have or is now attending but it’s certainly less immediately obvious and it has the benefit of implying that you’re more interested in supporting education overall rather than attempting to buy favor for your child. Since you mention that DC2 needs less support this year, you could consider quartering the gift and giving $500 to each K, 1st, 2nd, and 3rd grade teachers, thus achieving a bit more misdirection. Not a ton but it would likely get the message across that you’re not looking for special treatment here because you don’t benefit personally from K, 1st and 2nd grades being better.

    • nicoleandmaggie Says:

      Or instead of K and 1 (which have already gotten $1K each year DC2 was there), maybe 4th? Or we could give to classes at the school that aren’t dual language… (who likely need the money more). I wonder how many third grade classes there are.

      • Revanche @ A Gai Shan Life Says:

        Yes, that would be good too! On second thought, spreading it upwards from 2, 3 and 4 both is good because the older grades haven’t received a gift and it further masks DC2.

        I love FirstGenAmerican’s ideas too, I’ll have to put those in the hopper to make some time for those later.

  3. First Gen American Says:

    When we were in the poor school district I used to do stuff that many grades benefited from. I paid for a couple of animal shows to come to school when the kids were really little. The raptor show was a hit but the reptiles and amphibians show was hated by a few of the teachers. They were creeped out by the giant snakes but the kids liked it and my sons favorite book at the time was the snake dictionary. I got to do something cool for him while exposing 100 other kids to it too.

    Later I helped get the school grant money. I haven’t done anything monetary for the rich schools my kids are in now…but their budgets are fat and PTO kicks butt raising money so I donate my time to robotics and science fair instead.

    You could solicit ideas from all the teachers and then hand out gift cards that a way…then you can put your money into the idea that resonates best and it randomizes it a bit. But make sure the ask is simple and Can be put together with just a few sentences. Good luck and thanks for supporting education. I wish everyone did.

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