We’ve tried a bunch of things so far, even talking to one of the teachers, but DC1 cannot always remember to turn in hir homework. Homework has different deadlines for different classes– math, for example, unlike previous math classes, only wants one big homework packet on the day of the exam. English has daily bellwork that is only due on Fridays. Biology is due randomly. And so on.
DC1 is oblivious to the teacher reminding in class and to other kids putting homework in homework baskets. Things came to a head last week when we got an auto-notification that DC1 had gotten zeroes on three (completed) assignments (two major, one minor) on the same day. Zie had just not turned them in. Of course, one of these classes was English, and for the same not turning bellwork in on Friday as has happened before that we literally discussed with hir about this exact assignment this past week. The other two classes are ones where zie does not have a whole lot of wiggle room, including a math packet on exam day. This is the second time DC1 has failed to turn in a completed math packet on exam day. None of these teachers accept late work.
Keeping an assignment notebook hasn’t worked. Punching holes into papers and putting them in a 3 ring binder hasn’t worked. Having a folder for random papers hasn’t worked. For a while there I was going through papers with DC1 every night but got sick of it, and DH said he’d take over and he did for a few days but then he stopped.
The current thing we’re trying is to take a page from DC2’s elementary school. I have repurposed one of DC2’s old homework folders. DC1 is going to cross out hir younger sibling’s name and put HOMEWORK FOLDER on it in sharpie. And it is only going to have homework that is due in it. And then maybe if it still has stuff in it at the end of the day, zie can run and try to turn it in before getting on the bus? Of course, this still requires going through those damn papers every night and making sure they get filed instead of just stuffing them in hir backpack in a crumpled mess. I suspect any system would work if zie would just go through things without a parent assisting.
One of my friends complains that her kid doesn’t do the homework, or forgets about it and does it at the last minute. But her kid turns things in! And a 70 or 80% is better than a 0%! Our kid remembers assignments, does the homework, and then just… never turns them in. It has been happening all year, and we’re at a complete loss.