He did a bunch of lengthy lengthy interview processes from job openings former colleagues sent him which all ended with the companies saying, “you are amazing but we cannot have you remote” (even though he was always upfront in the first interview that we cannot move for a couple of years) and then finally got a job offer at a start-up where many of the workers are already remote. TWO of his professional friends work there and one of them is the former colleague who left when DH’s last company had to temporarily cut salaries (and then left the next place he went when *they* cut salaries because of covid and that cut didn’t turn out to be temporary). It’s a pay increase from his last job and he will be making about 10K more than I do. (The first offer was pretty much identical to my salary but then he negotiated! In theory we will be at par again after I’m promoted, but we will see.)
I’m not sure what to say other than that. I will probably have really obnoxious posts about being rich again and that adjustment. Though this is a start-up so it may not last long so DH wants to put a lot towards savings, which is smart. (And if we move to a coast, selling our paid-off house would only provide a 20% down payment for another house.) So where do we park that savings? I guess you’ll find out in obnoxious posts after I figure it out (Vanguard index funds? probably. But *which* Vanguard index funds?).
Right now what’s more in my mind is the loss of time. It was really nice having a househusband, even if he was spending 20 hours/week doing unemployment stuff (he’s now a six sigma yellow belt and has some project management thing, thank you unemployment commission). I could just put any Ottonlenghi (sponsored link) meal I wanted on the meal plan and it would magically happen even if it took hours to make without me doing any of the cooking. And you saw all the gorgeous baking DH has been doing. Now I’m like… we need to eat more spaghetti with jarred sauce. And when was the last time we had macaroni and cheese with tuna and peas (aka stovetop tuna cheese casserole)? Also he could be first stop for any questions from the kids. And he was just taking care of things. Now we’re going back to 50/50 and it’s an adjustment, though thankfully the school year is over so I have some time to adjust.
The kids have a week off, so I’m having them meal plan for a week and put the necessary groceries on the list. I’ve given them a budget of $250 which is more than we usually spend, but I didn’t want them to feel like they had to trade-off expensive fruit in order to get ice cream. They’ve so far only spent $80 after getting our regular necessities (we have a list of bread/eggs/milk/bananas etc. that I put on before they started) and ingredients for 7 dinners, which suggests that DH and I really spend an awful lot on fancy cheeses and organic produce. DC1 thinks we should buy restaurant sushi with the rest, but DC2 is lobbying for one of each kind of oreos. (In the end DH and I added some things like pecans and cat litter and the bill got up to $125, give or take.)
Our state unemployment office is not letting him request the first week of unemployment benefits that they withheld that’s supposed to come to him automatically after getting a job (they claim he already requested it, which he did not). He’s going to have to play phone roulette again to get that reinstated, but, fun story, he’s not allowed to call them about this until he is actually on the job, and he has to call during working hours. And last time it took an hour of hitting redial before he was able to get through. Talk about an ordeal mechanism. And how seriously unfair to lower income people who cannot spend an hour during working hours the first week of a new job to get the bridge money they need before their next paycheck. He hasn’t decided whether or not to make that call, since of course, we can afford not to. But our government is just going to use that money to hurt Trans people, immigrants, and women, so…
So, yay DH! He was definitely ready to be working again. And he LOVES working with at least two of his colleagues and they love working with their other colleagues, so it should be fun. Plus the head of software is a woman and that is ALWAYS a good sign. (Women are like canaries in the Tech Coalmine– if there aren’t any, and there aren’t any in management other than project management, it is probably a hostile environment.)
… I don’t have any questions. Being selfish and just enjoying the change.