Soliciting more ask the grumpies

Ask the grumpies is a feature we run every Friday or every other Friday depending (sometimes it alternates with the less-popular but still fascinating google questions).  You ask, we answer, or we punt and ask the grumpy nation to answer.  In any case, you get the benefit of not only our wisdom but the collective wisdom of the far wiser grumpy nation.

What questions do you have for us?  What can we bring clarity or further confusion to?  What can the grumpy nation ponder and discuss on your behalf?  Ask in the comments below or email us at grumpyrumblings at gmail dot com.

Reading the debate via live tweets: An observation

I, again, tried to watch the last debate livestream and failed as soon as Trump started talking.  Luckily there are plenty of people live-tweeting the debate so I could keep up on what was happening.

One thing I noticed.

At the end of the night, all the women tweeters talked about how HRC won solidly and how creepy Trump was with his stalkerish moves getting up in her personal space.  They marveled at how calm and collected HRC was in the face of that onslaught and how we wish we could be that hardcore.  They pretty unilaterally noted that his behavior confirms the truth of his recorded 2005 remarks about how he assaults women.

None of the guys I read even noticed.  Their bottom line was that it didn’t go as badly for Trump as expected.  One even said it was a good enough performance that it made people who unendorsed him look foolish.  (It wasn’t and it didn’t.)

After I went to sleep, many of the guys read women’s commentary.  They rewatched the tape.  They said oh.  Yeah, that actually happened.  He was a creepy stalker dude.  How did I not see that?

Privilege is a pretty powerful thing.  But I’m glad that sometimes the privileged listen and open their eyes.

I want to embed this video but I can’t figure out how.  Watch with the sound on.

Did you watch the debate?  What were your impressions?

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In which we do not have to buy a new car (yet)

So I don’t know if you remember, but when we got back from Paradise this summer we had some cash moneys left that we hadn’t spent.  I’d been worried that I was going to need to spend it on a new car in case my 2005 Hyundai Accent hadn’t taken well to storage.   My sweet little Accent was doing well enough that instead I paid $1K+ to fix the cosmetic problems that I caused when trying to park the car on 2 hours of sleep right before leaving for paradise.  It’s currently having some problems starting right off, but I assume that we just need to replace the spark plugs or some kind of cable and it will be fine.

Because we didn’t think we’d need to replace my car any time soon, we put the $30K we’d been saving into the stock market.  It is now worth less than 30K as of this writing.  (Oops!  Probably should have waited until October, oh well.)

A couple weeks after doing that and well before I got my first paycheck for the school year, DH got rear-ended at a stop sign.  In his lovely 2006 Honda Civic Hybrid.  He and the kids are fine, but the car could no longer close the trunk.

The other driver was at fault but apparently that doesn’t really matter, at least not in the short term.  (Liberty Mutual says they will seek compensation from the other company, but they have to pay out first, so it may happen.)  So we owe a $1K deductible.  The repairs were initially set at ~$2500, but after the take-down of the car (which took a week and a half) they found another $850 or so in additional needed repairs for the frame, which put the total cost of body shop repairs at just under what the insurance company would declare the car totaled at.  I’m sure that’s just a coincidence.  Then another week and a half to do the repairs.

So… we’re not going to buy a new car.  DH decided he wanted a Prius (~25K walk-away price).  I figured if we put off the actual Prius buying until October we could pay cash by using my entire October paycheck plus most of our emergency fund.  Or maybe we could float it on credit cards earlier since the next payment wouldn’t actually be due until after I got paid.  But now we don’t have to do that.  Whew.

That’s our story.  I kind of like driving our 10/11 year old cars.  I’m not really big on change.  I mean, some of it is the expense, but a lot of it is me being kind of attached to our current cars so long as they’re not giving us too much trouble.  But we will probably have to replace one or the other of these cars at some point in the not too distant future.  I just always thought it would be my Accent first.  I mean, it has a tape deck in it(!)  (The Honda at least has a cd player…)

How did you decide it was time to get a new car?

link love


Republican controlled state governments keep blocking people from voting even after courts ordered them to stop.

Indiana police interfere with voter registration efforts by request of Republican politicians.  Seriously.  This happened.

F*** Wisconsin.  Seriously.  F*** it.

Issue 1 is key here

Trump brags about how he can get away with sexually assaulting women because he is rich and famous (audio from 2005).

Btw, did you know that Trump has been accused in court of sexual assault at least 3x?  The make-up artist’s story sounds eerily similar to his 2005 bragging.  (The other two were rape accusations from Ivana Trump and the current court case about child rape.)

Trump said the Central Park Five, who were falsely accused of a rape they didn’t commit, who he took out ad space against at the time, who were exonerated by DNA evidence, he said they were guilty.  On Friday.  This past Friday.  He said innocent black men were guilty of a crime they had been proven not to have committed.

Trump says soldiers with PTSD have it because they are weak (this is not true).

Trump says he would use his power of the presidency to punish nations like China if they denied things to his businesses.

How Trump got a middle-class tax break.

How Trump “lost” 916 million and avoided tax.  (An earlier post on the same topic.)

Trump’s bankruptcy lawyers say they had to meet with him in pairs to have a witness because he lied so much.

Republican Ana Navarro takes down a Trump apologist.

Michelle Obama is really good at throwing shade *tap tap tap*

Josh Marshall on the increase in antisemitism he’s been on the receiving end of since Trump’s campaign started.

A Donald Trump supporter sent a triggering video to a reporter with epilepsy in order to induce a seizure.

Secret service had to help escort the mother of a disabled child out of a Trump rally because Trump supporters were threatening her.

Now the Germans are using Trump videos to parody Hitler.”  (Make your own Hitler video…)

Clinton reminds them of their first wives

Clinton should “leak” her policy discussions from fundraisers.  Maybe the press will notice them if she does.

NYTimes writes puff piece on behalf of Trump campaign.

Do not hamstring the first woman president

Calling out racism is not insidious



A poem that explained mansplaining before the term was invented.

Why everyone loves to tear women down.

This is an old one but bears repeating:  about the mom-bob

LeBron James endorses Hillary Clinton for president

Gary Johnson argues his problems with geography are a benefit

Medical marijuana means that older men work longer?

How beige took over as America’s indoor paint.

Hillary Clinton and popularity.  Really cool graphs.

Hillary Clinton shares the story of a bad childhood haircut.

Wandsci should stop making me cry with her links

John Scalzi talks about writing for audible and how it is different


Academics anonymous, am I an addict?

This is outstanding


sports bra research

Machine learning vs stats


Elephant Gerald

You asked Google, we answered

Q:  do you call your pets kids

A:  No.  Babies, yes, kids, no.

Q:  what makes someone miserable

A:  Donald Trump.

Q:  why are some people hardwired to complain

A:  I reject your premise except for people who have brain damage, which is just like bad luck.

Q:  do kid do things if they can or if they want ?

A:  Sometimes yes, sometimes no.

Q:  things that roussea says are forced to children as they grow older

A:  they have to stop being dream children and start being boring stodgy adults who do horrible things like read books and make a difference in the world.  Horrible.

Q:  what does it mean to be someone’s partner

A:  According to the dictionary within google:  “a person who takes part in an undertaking with another or others, especially in a business or company with shared risks and profits.”  though it could also be a romantic or sexual partner.

Q:  best female leather. attache case for short meetings?

A:  Let us know!

Q:  least favorite chore apa artinya

A:  What does it all mean?

Q:  briefcase that holds breastpump

A:  You can get the kind that comes with the pump, but really most briefcases will work so long as they’re not too thin.  You should measure the pump you have and make sure it fits inside the case.

Q:  what to ask before hiring helper

A:  Why do you want this job?  Seriously, there are so many bad answers to this question.

Do you do seasonal decorations?

As Halloween approaches, I’ve noticed decorations going up on people’s lawns in town and in folks’ pictures online.  (Georgia Dunn’s insta shows her Halloween decorations in the background.)

That got me thinking about seasonal decorations and wondering if I’m the only person who doesn’t bother.  (Remembering to get/find the kids’ costumes and candy for giving out is about all I can handle for Halloween.)  Apparently I’m not because #2 doesn’t either.

#1:  Just Christmas.  Most years we get a rosemary tree and decorate it, unless we’re traveling over Christmas, in which case we have a felt tree that DH and DC1 made.  And the kids have stockings.  Usually all of this happens a few days before Christmas after I’ve gotten my final exams graded and entered and school has ended for the year.

#2:  Just Christmas.  We have some seasonal towels but they’re just red and green so we use them normally. We have stockings and some random tchotchkes people have given us.

#1: Oh yeah, we have towels and a bunch of random Christmas tchotchkes people have given us too. There was a time when DH’s relatives would give us Christmas decorations for Christmas. We also have Christmas theme hand towels and if we have ppl over for Thanksgiving we have fall themed table runners, courtesy of DH’s grandma.

#2: There was a time when people gave us holiday stuff, but much of it has gone to goodwill. We don’t have that kind of room anymore.

#1: If we moved we would probably do that.  Our stuff hangs out in a cupboard.

Do you do seasonal decorations?  Did you do them growing up? 

Are you registered to vote (in the US)?

Last year my (red, Southern, affected by the VRA) state lost my voter registration and put me in limbo, but oddly they did not lose my DH’s.  Instead, just for fun, they misread DH’s response to their snail mail asking if he wanted to stay registered as a “no” instead of a “yes” and cut him off.  We each had to file another form with the county office to get reinstated.  You may want to check up on yours, you know, just in case.

There are a lot of ways to check your voter registration.

Probably the easiest is to type into google, “am I registered to vote“.  Google will respond with information that is specific to your state.  It’s lovely.

If that doesn’t work for you for whatever reason, has a lovely page that will link you to all the different state sites where you can check across the country.

After checking the status of your registration, most of these sites will have a link for you to register to vote.  You can again google “how do I register to vote” and google will take you to the appropriate site, or is a website that will take you to the state registration site appropriate for you.

Some states will allow you to register online, but for others you still have to mail in information.

Deadlines are starting to hit now.  Again, googling, “voter registration date” will get you the information relevant to you, or you can look at a page like this one.   Note also that some places want snail registrations by the date listed whereas others will accept post-marked by the date listed.  If you haven’t registered to vote in the US yet and you are eligible we’re really getting to the time where there’s not much time left.

If you’re in a state that you’re sure isn’t going to change one way or the other, don’t be so sure.  Polling has been getting all sorts of messed up as people move from landlines to cellphones and we don’t really know the underlying trends like we did even 12 years ago.  In addition, this election has been like no other.  Bigots are excited about the pro-Bigot candidate, whereas everyone else is terrified of Trump.  There’s a lot of silent Clinton supporters out there in red states, as well as bigots you will hopefully never cross paths with.  Anything could happen.  (Plus downstream ballots are also important!)

So, vote!  Tell your friends, family, etc. to register before it’s too late!  The future of the free world may depend on it.

Are you registered to vote?

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