For Halloween candy, do you let your kids eat as much as they want or do you put limits on how much they can eat at a time?
My colleagues and I were just discussing this before a meeting earlier this week. The answers ranged from one person only allowing hir kids to have one piece a day and a couple of us (including me) without any rules on how much can be consumed Halloween night.
The conversation included whether it was better to have a little sugar every day for most of the year or to have a couple/few heavy sugary days and then have entirely candy-free days (we’re social scientists, not nutritionists, so this was solely speculative). Candy quality over time was also discussed. But the main argument seemed to be that if you let kids eat as much candy as they want, they’ll get sick.
To which I replied, quite truthfully, “Oh, that only happens once.”
Which I guess illustrates how DH and I are very much natural consequences parents. It’s not like we didn’t tell them that too much candy will give them a tummy ache, but sometimes one doesn’t know what too much is until one has experienced it. (My learning experience was Easter, First Grade, in case you’re wondering.)
We don’t buy any candy other than extra super dark chocolate that’s mine and they have to ask permission to have, so the only way they get candy is via Halloween, Christmas, Easter, and what they spend their own money on (also the occasional school/party treat and the weekly dumdum from the piano teacher). They almost never spend their own money on candy (though that’s where all my money went when I was growing up). So unless they decide to ration out holiday candy themselves, most days will be candy-free.
There are rules on *when* candy can be consumed in my house, but not how much. They can generally only eat it after meals, mostly after dinner. That’s because they’re still growing and allowing natural consequences doesn’t extend to missing important vitamins that could contribute to their growth because they’re overfull on sugar.
Is this the right thing to do? Who knows. It’s the lazy thing to do, which basically means it’s what works for us. (We also let our kids nap whenever they were sleepy, while the one piece a day colleague had rigid nap schedules– I don’t think it actually matters.) Last night our kids only ate a few pieces right after they got back, then noted they were full and put their remaining candy back in their bags. I would like to say they then moved their bags to the kitchen pantry to their candy shelf, but in truth they left them on the dining room floor. (Because all their bad habits come from me and I leave my bag on the floor whenever I’m not using it.)
Did you have rules growing up about how much Halloween candy you could eat at a time? If applicable, do you have rules for your kids?