Our brothers and sisters in law spent less on our kids this year than in previous years. This is a good thing. Maybe next year we’ll also spend less on them (we spent about $50/kid, mostly on books), but probably not because I love picking out and buying books.
We spent Christmas at the in-laws’ this year, which means we opened presents there. MIL is going to end up spending a ton to send the presents home. I don’t really know of any way to suggest just letting amazon send the bigger stuff directly to us so she doesn’t have to do that. But also she probably likes watching everybody open gifts. And presumably she doesn’t want cousins to feel like they’re being treated differently. But there are so many gifts that I’m not sure anybody notices.
DC1 got a Nintendo DS. And since DH had mentioned earlier that it was probably too expensive for hir to take to school given the number of times DC1 has lost hir cheap flip-phone (that thankfully nobody wants to steal, so it has been recovered each time thus far), DC1 also got a Kindle Fire.
The problem of DC2 getting the same gifts as hir slightly older same-gendered cousin is getting worse. And we couldn’t just confiscate those gifts either (for the most part) because DC2 saw them at Christmas and MIL is planning on taking them out of the packaging before sending. Putting on the wish list what DC2 was into in general terms didn’t help much. Zie got some stuff related to that, but still got lots of stuff zie isn’t interested in that hir cousin likes. Nor did it help to say explicitly on the amazon list that DC2 wants what DC1 gets (though my mom paid attention to that and got both of them rubix cubes!) One of the items was so bad that I actually did take it to MIL and tell her we couldn’t accept it– it had crossed a line (I didn’t say it like that though, it was more like could you give this to hir cousin, we don’t really approve of this show). I know it’s easier to keep things even across grandkids if she’s getting the same stuff for them, but maybe she could match hir up with the opposite-gendered kid who is about the same age instead of the older same-gendered kid?
So we’re still struggling with what to do about our in-laws bounty, particularly for DC2. They still get DC1 really cool stuff even if they’re over-generous (mostly things that hir somewhat younger cousin already owns and loves). They did get some of the things off the amazon list for the children, but in the end my mom ended up buying most of it just before Christmas. And that stuff, along with the stuff we got hir, has gotten a lot more playtime out of it. DC2 just really isn’t into the same things hir same-gender older cousin is into.
One thing that did happen that I’m embarrassed about… I was talking to BIL about presents, I can’t remember what about exactly, as we were going up the stairs, but I mentioned that DC2 seemed to get the same stuff as his kid, and he said, “that’s good because they like the same stuff” and I was all, “well, not really, DC2 is really into what DC1 is into.” At which point we turned the corner and saw my MIL. So, uh, maybe this will resolve itself?
Why can’t the cousin be as into Bubble Guppies (and other gender-neutral stuff) as DC2 is?
Sometimes getting the same gendered stuff for both cousins works… DH’s sister got them both a gendered-craft kit that they both loved and spent many hours working on.
DC1 may have gotten all the cousins addicted to Batman.