As I’ve noted before, I’ve been on Modern Mrs. Darcy’s bad list (she says her assistant put me on– I haven’t checked since writing this post to see if I’m still on it). Essentially I can comment in the morning and then sometime in the late afternoon or evening, my comment appears not as a new comment, but as if it were never in moderation to begin with, sort of in the middle of a conversation that has passed it by.
This process has made me wonder about the point of commenting. I mean, if all I care is that the blog-owner (or hir assistant) read my comment, then that situation should be fine. But what if I don’t actually care about the specific proprietor and probably care even less about assistants?
Do I want fame, or links back to our blog or to rile things up or to see myself speak? These are potentially painful questions. If I’m just commenting to annoy people, well, then maybe I shouldn’t be commenting. If I’m doing it to try to drum up business for our blog, then we should monetize it so as not to waste that effort. If I just want to see myself speak, it would be better to turn the comment into an entire post rather than leaving it as a flyby freebie. (Especially since we have a few money posts in the blog queue right now but nothing else!)
Ultimately, I think I care about the conversation. I like learning things about people and maybe having people learn from me too. I like seeing different perspectives because they make me think too and I like to think. I also care about people not believing things that aren’t true. I care about people not thinking that they have to feel guilt and etc. for living their lives the way that is working for them and for their families, no matter what other people on the internet say. Admittedly, this latter reason sometimes makes me irritated and I have to take a break after leaving a possibly sharply worded comment here or there.
Now, of course, you should never wonder about whether or not you should comment on *our* blog. We treasure every comment (except, of course, those of the occasional tiny-penis man who slips through before getting blocked). Our commenters have really nuanced and thoughtful conversations– it’s a point of pride that when people link to us, the link more often than not says, “read the comments section.”
Why do you comment on blogs? (Or if you can be enticed to de-lurk, why *don’t* you comment on blogs?)