Debbie M asks:
What is your favorite way you’ve helped with some big social goal (like equality, climate, or corruption)? “Favorite” could mean you enjoy doing it or that you feel it actually makes a difference or some other thing.
I’ve had a surprisingly hard time answering this question. Neither of us enjoys doing any social goal stuff. #2 became jaded after flying to DC for the march on science did nothing. #1 knows it is a long game and dislikes that she has to do these things just to keep things from getting worse. It’s really hard for me to enjoy these things when the need for them is always a reminder in the background. Also I have a legitimate fear of crowds and even so I’m sad that people have stopped protesting, because protests are actually important, but a protest of one maybe isn’t as much. That all sounds very demoralizing and I DO NOT WANT PEOPLE TO GIVE UP. It’s just that you have to keep working for social justice even though it isn’t fun, even though it doesn’t make a difference right away… even if you can’t see the difference it makes.
Every fight for social justice keeps us from slipping further back into the mire. We can’t see this– all we can see is if we’re not making forward progress. So it seems like we’re not doing anything worthwhile, but we really are. Every city counsel person we get elected, every state senator, every federal congressperson– these all matter. Even if we don’t have the majorities needed to make the positive progress we need and deserve, every small thing we do is pushing in the right direction. It may not feel like progress, but it really is.
So, I guess I want to say… if it were easy, we’d have already done it. If it were easy, we wouldn’t be needed. The bad guys have been pushing to overturn Roe since the 1970s… decades later they won the battle. The Supreme Court has been taken over by horrific people and will not protect us. We HAVE to keep fighting against fascism. Even if it’s not enjoyable. Even though we can’t see the difference right away. We have to keep fighting for our future selves, for the nation’s children, for the world, for the future of humanity.
I give money to donors choose to buy books about trans kids every time I find out about something anti-trans happening. Sometimes I’ll organize and make sure someone gets funded, only to find out two months later that the teacher had to abandon the funded project because her school principal was afraid that books about minorities of any kind violated state or local law. But that doesn’t erase all the other teachers we’ve helped. That doesn’t take away from the kids who WERE able to read books that humanize trans kids. These tiny pushes might make trans people more human to Cis-kids so when they grow up they won’t understand why anyone would care about a person’s gender and they’ll oppose legislation that hurts trans people, even after we’ve stopped fighting.
I write postcards to voters and letters to voters. Sometimes those elections don’t go the way we’d hoped. Sometimes they do. I don’t know how much my own 10 postcards per week or stack of letters mattered. But the plurality of them, along with the phone calls and letters that other organizations are sending, maybe they did matter together.
I’ve gone to protests… I had a panic attack at the Women’s March because I am legit diagnosed ochlophobic, and I’ve stayed on the outer edges of other protests. They matter but they don’t usually bring immediate change. And now all the gains we made from Black Lives Matter are being eroded. But it’s a long fight. We have to keep pushing forward.
I help people register to vote. I remind people of elections. We’re so gerrymandered the outcome doesn’t change. But maybe the habit of voting will stay strong and things will matter in the future. Or maybe the people who vote keep our gerrymandering from only electing fascists– perhaps without them voting Republicans would take it as permission to go even worse. If we give up, we lose our democracy entirely.
The one thing I do through work is teach people that they’re not actually bad at math. I help them learn how to think critically. I like to think that as they go into the world they take those skills and use them to make the world a better place. But it’s not an immediate difference that I can see in terms of social goals, just one I have to hope and trust. And maybe it’s worth it anyway.
Grumpy Nation: How do you fight for social justice? What do you do to help keep us from sliding backwards or to help move us forward?