So, as chill and amazing as we seem and under control etc. Something is stressing one of us out.
Four somethings, in fact. (And the occasional opossum.)
About 3 weeks ago, a tiny black kitten got stuck in our garage. It was cold and awful that first night so we didn’t let it out until the next day, and we thought we’d gotten it out the next day but the extra food etc. ended up having been eaten so it took another day with the door open for it to actually escape.
We put food on our back porch with the hope of the kitten and the mom reuniting. And after seeing a baby tiger kitty, a mama tiger, and a scared black kitten we thought they had. Over the course of a week or two, mamacat went from dull and scrawny to a beautiful glossy kitty. She’d been taking good care of her kittens, but definitely needed more food for herself.
Regular feeding left them hanging out on our porch during the sunny weather. The kittens remained elusive and skittish, but mama cat would almost get into touching distance when I fed them. They disappeared during cold and rainy weather. And I worried.
I am a firm believer that it is wrong to feed feral kitties without getting them spayed and neutered. So I did web searches and I called our vet and DH called animal control and our local humane society and some other vets. After talking to enough people we got instructions and rented traps and made a vet appointment and set out the traps.
We caught a little tiger kitten right off. We transferred him to a carrier and set the trap out again. Around midnight DH transferred two(!) little black kittens out of the trap into a carrier and reset the trap. In the morning we found we’d caught an opossum but not mamacat. Opossums are freaky and I do not like them. Fortunately they only seem to come out at night.
The kittens spent that day at the vet, we found out the tiger was a boy and the black kittens both girls. No fleas or FIV or anything that could harm our resident cats. They’re small but 14 weeks old. The internet suggests they’re too old to domesticate. But the vet said she thought we had a chance. In any case, they needed to stay inside to heal for a day or two. Two weeks to heal fully, if wanted to do that.
And then the weather turned absolutely awful. Sleety-awful. So we kept the kittens inside in the guest bedroom suite.
Mamacat was heart broken. She wailed for her babies. While they were still healing up in their carriers we brought them out to the patio and they cried at each other. But we failed at catching mamacat in the patio or in a trap. Then we let the kittens into the guest bedroom so we can’t use them as bait anymore. She’s since stopped wailing for her babies.
We caught another opossum two nights later. And another two nights after that. But still no mamacat.
And she’s stopped coming by every night, more like every other night. She no longer lets me near while she eats. She’s gotten good at eating food out of the first third of the trap, but no more. (We can tell when we have an opossum, because they leave no scraps.) The vet and the humane society say to keep trying. Maybe she’ll be back when the weather gets better. I suspect we’re just going to keep catching possums.
So I worry. I don’t want mama to have more babies. I don’t want the kittens to be out there defenseless not knowing how to hunt. I don’t really know what to do. If we let the kittens out we will probably catch them in the trap again instead of mama. We don’t ever see the kittens– they eat and poop in the litter box and make amazing messes, but only when nobody is in the room. When someone is in the room, they hang out in the guest bed box springs.
Most of the advice for taming feral kittens seems a bit cruel, separating them and caging them and forcing them to be petted against their will. And all those sites say these kittens are too old anyway. This one is a bit more gentle and hopeful, but I think we’re not doing it right either, what with the box springs instead of a cave, and not actually being there for them to watch while they eat.
So I’ve destroyed a family bond. Mamacat can still have more babies. And we have three defenseless feral kittens in our guest bed boxsprings who are unlikely to be tamed. Also our HOA says we’re only allowed 2 cats, and we already have those. (The city has our back on the feral cat colony thing although the woman at animal control had no idea what we were talking about when we mentioned it. Still, their webpage is really clear.) I don’t know what to do. I don’t know if I’ve done the right thing. I don’t know what the right thing to do going forward is.
And that’s the kind of thing that stresses me out. Maybe not human lives at stake, but real lives nonetheless.