- Here’s the list from 2010
- Websites for kids. This was a list from 2011. In case you’re interested: http://www.starfall.com http://playinterrobang.com/missions http://www.bigbrainz.com/ http://www.coolmath4kids.com/ . The only one I remember DC1 playing a lot was starfall.com. DC2 used it too but not as much. 11 years ago is a long time when you’re a kid! I did not check to see if these still exist.
- Money is about life. This was actually an abandoned Monday post. It was supposed to be deep and philosophical. But I only got as far as: “time is money too”
- Goal ladders. I’d come across a really neat psychology article in the course of my research and wanted to talk about it. I don’t know what article it was. All I have written is: “Focus on future vs. focus on accomplishments”
- Playground equipment. This was going to be a rant about how they’d gotten rid of swing sets in all of the playgrounds in our county and some discussion about the old playgrounds still standing in the place we were on leave. All I have written is: “safe/boring.”
- Real Self vs. Ideal Self. “pictures of both” And then this link to unclutterer that no longer goes anywhere: http://unclutterer.com/2011/06/14/living-as-close-as-possible-to-your-ideal-self/#comments . Since the article is gone, I’m not really sure what the post was going to be about. I mean, I like to think I’m constantly trying to grow and improve, and I’ve definitely taken steps to change myself in the past… but I probably have reached a bit of a complacency rut in middle-age that I didn’t have back 11 years ago. Who knows. I don’t know my real self or my ideal self and these days I’m just trying to get things done without the long-term planning.
- Which is more important preparing for baby: money or time? I probably could still write this one and it would generate a lively discussion. But I can’t find myself caring that much? I think my natural state of the world is that babies are boring, and it’s only when I have one of my own that the topic is at all interesting. Here are my notes: family money, whether joint or separate finances; cost of childbirth (varies by state, insurance); story about working over time; push presents. (BTW, push presents are such a ridiculous concept. I’m pretty sure this post was sparked by the comments on that post.)
- Cooking for diabetes/insulin resistance. I’m worried that my knowledge on this topic is at least 11 years out of date. Though I think cooking magazines now “get it.” Here’s my few sentences on the topic: Cooking when you’re insulin resistant or diabetic is all about the glycemic index. As best as I understand it, you want foods or combinations of foods that are slow to digest because this decreases the incidence of insulin spikes. It’s really weird how so many of the cooking magazines I saw had recipes with baked potatoes and white rice. Hello, not glycemically balanced.
- Learning that you shouldn’t have tantrums in stores. Another one I probably could write up. But I’ve come to realize that my childhood was maybe not so great in many ways and I’d prefer not to dwell on it. The short version is my father would only let me get a hard candy lollypop (like butterscotch) at See’s Candy. Once (when I was small) I tantrummed that I wanted something else. He dragged me kicking and screaming out of the store and I didn’t get the lollypop at all. Then I have some commentary: “somehow my kid is way better behaved… maybe just not old enough… doesn’t seem to have as big a sweet tooth either.” There’s a lot of introspection in that comment from 2011 that I don’t really want to go into. Anyhow, that was my last tantrum that I recall.
- We’re down to 95 drafts now. Next up: 2012. I wonder what will happen if we run out. Will we be able to come up with new stuff?
October 5, 2022 at 1:25 am
I’m very hopeful that you’ll remember the goal ladders post one of these days. I’m glad we still have swing sets out here, they’re such a big part of park fun.
I still think push presents are absurd. I love a specific kind of jewelry but I hate the concept of a push present (as defined in your post) a lot more. Now if a push present were lovely cosseting that magically produced more sleep and less stress, I’d be all about that. I adore squishy babies but I’m glad we’re not going to do that again.
No idea who my real/ideal self is. Therapy will probably help me find that out, slowly as a part of untangling the mess that got me to this physical / health point, but in the abstract I’m not so invested in discovery during this moment of life. I don’t get the feeling we’re living inauthentic lives, though.
October 5, 2022 at 9:58 am
I don’t even know what an inauthentic life is. I mean, some would say that Ned Fulmer was living an inauthentic life, but like aren’t our actions telling us a bit of who we are even if that’s not what was presented to the internet?
October 5, 2022 at 10:11 am
I saw it as Ned was PRESENTING an inauthentic life.
My thinking on it has more to do with whether we’re being true to ourselves and if we know what we really want and what really makes us happy, vs living the life that other people expected from us and ignoring our own needs and wants.
It’s a common thing with my family that you do what your parents expect you to do: go to school, don’t date until you graduate college, marry someone, have 2-5 kids, raise them and that’s your life. There’s no room for dreams or desires in their template. For example, my cousins’ kids saw that my (other) cousins were impressing the family with their MDs so they announced they too wanted to become doctors. But they don’t, actually. My other cousins had a deep calling to help people medically. When they interrogated the situation with the kids a little more, their “desire” to become a doctor was about wanting to match Elder Cousin’s accomplishments and impressing family in the same way. It wasn’t about a life they actually wanted to live. Elder Cousin was adamant that they should really think hard about committing themselves to that goal if they didn’t want to live like she does (long hours, working with colleagues who did it for the wrong reasons and are miserable) when the payoff (helping patients) feels less satisfying when that’s not your reason for doing it. I would imagine that if they forced themselves on that path for the sake of just impressing the family, they aren’t going to be living their authentic lives and they won’t be happy.
Maybe also like supporting my family for so long – that wasn’t at all the life I wanted. But I guess it wasn’t inauthentic in that I genuinely cared and believed it was the right thing to do, when it wasn’t. I’m still working on letting myself have wants so that remains an open question.
October 5, 2022 at 10:15 am
My religious upbringing basically says it doesn’t matter what we think we are inside– our actions are what is important.
(Without deeds our words are nothing.)
Economics reinforces this idea with the idea of revealed preference — where we can say whatever we want, but what we actually do shows what our values truly are. (And we act within constraints etc. so we would likely behave differently with more money, without the family, with full information etc.)
Its a very pragmatic philosophy which doesn’t really hold the idea of inauthentic selves. We are who we show we are.
October 5, 2022 at 3:40 am
I actually had my nose broken – as an adult – in a freak swingset accident, lol. Definitely not lol at the time! That was in our backyard, not at the park, though.
We had a very cool local park that was made boringly safe during a needed refurbishment and the outcry was immediate and intense. To a certain extent, I think it was a good idea because they’d refurbished a known “little kid” park to be more of a “big kid” park and so now this previous big kid park was more of a little kid park. The city now has its eyes on our beloved Castle Park, (which is 35 years old and I’m sure in need of refurbishment because wood does not last very long in FL) but I think parents would vote out every elected city official if anything was done to change the character of it.
October 5, 2022 at 9:29 am
My elementary school when I first started there in second grade still had ancient equipment from a closed amusement park including a tornado slide (with rusty holes) and a tilt-o-whirl! Unfortunately for me they got rid of both before I was old enough to go on the tilt-o-whirl (on the “big kids” side of the playground). Decades later they had to get rid of a pirate’s nest built during the refurbishing because some kid jumped out of the top (a non-trivial feat) and was badly injured.
October 5, 2022 at 9:30 am
not actually a tilt o whirl… I don’t know what it was called, but it had two swings on either side of a large pivot and you needed two kids in it to work and they both flew up dangerously high while operating it.
October 5, 2022 at 5:44 am
Went back and read your original post about push presents and No. 2 had the same reaction as I do: Ew!!
October 5, 2022 at 9:56 am
October 5, 2022 at 9:51 am
I went and looked at the Internet Wayback machine for the real vs. ideal self thing and then went looking for the author. In the blog post, she explained that her ideal self was [image of a happy fantasy vacation moment], while her real self was a more harried person sitting at a computer with a toddler in the mix. She said that the gap between real vs. ideal was due to mental and emotional clutter, and if you would just declutter: viola. You, too, can live your ideal life! At that time, she was the sort of organizer person who appears on morning shows and had a book.
What was interesting is that I found something she wrote in 2017 for the Washington Post. There, she explained that she chucked the professional organizer life because she was burned out on it. Since doing so, she discovered that she was happier once she got rid of the pressure to be perfect. And also she realized that not everyone can or needs to try for the way she was previously defining as ideal. It’s a more nuanced way of thinking about ideal vs. real than what she was presenting back in the day. Which is good, because it means that the entire rant I was mentally working up about her 2011 thoughts got defused by her 2017 thoughts.
October 5, 2022 at 9:54 am
October 5, 2022 at 2:33 pm
When my boyfriend was pre-diabetic, potatoes did not spike his blood sugar. All the grains did, though, even whole grains. So one of the weird things is that people are different. But yeah, you’d think cooking magazines for diabetics would just leave all that out.
One of my mom’s 3 goals for us kids was us not having tantrums in stores, specifically, not at checkout counters. None of the three of us did that. Though I do remember my sister saying, “Mom, I NEED some smash,” pointing to a frozen bag of squash, but there was no tantrum.
I don’t know if that was good luck or if she hustled us out of the store the first time and that did the trick. Growing up we were too poor for treats, so maybe never buying us anything is what worked.
(She also succeeded in goal #2, us not being racist–at least not like she and her parents were–and in goal #3, which I don’t remember. But not in a bunch of other goals she wished she’d thought of earlier!)
October 5, 2022 at 2:48 pm
Yeah, I don’t have a problem with milk (it helps) but some people do. The GI are averages but individuals differ.
October 5, 2022 at 5:16 pm
The glycemic index stuff is interesting. I recently decided to pay a bit more attention to that in my diet – so I swapped my breakfast cereal to a lower glycemic index option (which I judged based on total sugar) and I switched my go to lunch from a bagel with cheese to quinoa with an egg. I’ve lost almost 5 pounds. The new cereal has same calorie count as the old one and I haven’t consciously cut back on intake so having this actually work has been a pleasant surprise. I am tempted to dig into the research on this, but I don’t have the time so I guess I’ll just be happy that now I don’t need to buy new pants.
On the playground equipment… there is a piece of equipment common in NZ that blew my safety-conscious American mind when I first saw it. It is called the rocktopus and here is a picture in a blog post from another American who had the same reaction I did: http://nonendemics.blogspot.com/2011/09/rocktopus.html
October 5, 2022 at 5:32 pm
Huh, I didn’t think glycemic indices really mattered for people without insulin problems? I did lose a ton of weight just naturally when I found out about my insulin problems and gradually cut out simple carbs (and even more when I went on metformin). But it’s hard for me to care when I’m not trying to have a baby.
October 5, 2022 at 6:24 pm
Evidence is mixed but was persuasive enough for me to decide to try it, especially since it was an easy change to try. I think the proposed mechanism is you don’t get the sugar spike and so you don’t get the sugar crash that makes you feel hungry and so you don’t snack as much. But I didn’t honestly think I was snacking a lot before I tried this… so I don’t know.
October 6, 2022 at 9:52 am
We came across something like the rocktopus in Switzerland and it was the first thing that came to mind wrt risky playground equipment. But it was SOOO fun, the overall rotation/pivoting motion was a little unexpected and mesmerizing!
October 6, 2022 at 12:01 am
The carb thing is interesting. For me, the two biggest things I noticed was feeling less hungry when I ate more protein so I snacked less. I also noticed a huge difference in my arthritis flare ups when I was mainly eating proteins and non starchy veg. Potatoes didn’t seem to have a negative effect on inflammation like sugar or bread did.
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